The DJ asked "Why do people get hurt when a relationship end??"

Yeah, it is obvious that most people will get hurn when a relationship end at last.

Before the broken friendship, in order to keep a good relationship with their friends, people tend to make much efforts to the longevity of relationship. At the same time, most people will pay much attention to their friends if they care about the feeling of their friends. Even if they find that the relationship will get broken someday, they may try their best to keep the relation.

You see, if you have spend much time on something but get nothing at last, most people will feel sad obviously.

The death of a deep relationship is truly hurting. I was once there and the feeling of suicidal was accompanying my thoughts everyday and feel the world collapsing on me. I cried until there is no more tears to shed. This is the case of forced 'break-up' as my father was very much against the relationship and didn't want me to see him. Being naive and obedient I have to surrender to my father's wishes. A decision that I regretted to this day. I think people gets hurt when a relationship ends because of the sudden loss of someone that has been stirring the heart and the deprivation of a genuine love you give and received has created a void in the heart. The hurt is so deep that words alone would not be able to describe the intensity of the hurt feelings. Love doesn't come everyday and once it touches the heart, it will have a deep impact on us, losing someone that you truly love is like losing part of you.

hi simonlee



well as for me, i would get hurt very badly if the relationship ends for the sensitive person i am, that is one of the reasons i don't want to get in any sort of relationship for now, i am studying and i am all devoting my time on to it, if i happen to have a girlfriend then i am sure i will loosing my concentration towards her, i am weak in this matter and hence i haven't come in to any sort of relationship, i don't regret it, i have lots of time and someday i know i will have the special one.

I guess, people get hurt when a relationship ends because something good had ended or they felt they were cheated. Most of the time, the people who gets hurt are the ones who feels they were cheated. The people who really cared about the relationship, who'd given effort in it but found out in the end that they were doing all those things for nothing. When a relationship ends, it's either you sigh and say "good riddance" or you'd be the one who'll say "life's so unfair". Yes, you're right about one thing, most probably the reason why you were not hurt because you did not take the relationship seriously. It's as what the saying goes, you've never loved if you were never hurt. When you love a person and you'd given everything to make the relationship work but it ended drastically, you'd feel the pain of losing and feel the pain of being made a fool on. So that's my say on why do people get hurt when a relationship ends? It's because you've loved and lost, felt cheated and left out. The most hurtful thing is, you were made a fool all the while.

That answer depends on one thing. How deeply involved you are in that relationship.

If it means little to you then of course you will not be hurt. If you are the one who causes the relationship to end you will not be hurt. Perhaps the relationship just did not fit you.

But what if you had fallen deeply in love with this person and you trusted them completely. Perhaps you had even began to see yourself married. Then one fine day he comes to you and says, sorry but I have found someone else we need to split up.
You would indeed be hurt.

The pain would actually come from two sources. First is the fact that you lost a love. But the second would come from the fact that you lost a relationship you deeply cared about through no fault of your own.

If you had ever lost a true love this question would not be so vague to you.

It is a natural thing to happen. If my relationship with someone ends, I would surely be hurt, too. That is especially so if he/she is so close to me. I would even get hurt if I have a misunderstanding with my friend, how much more if I my relationship ends with the one I love. I will surely get hurt because of the thought that I would no longer be with him and dreams to get together in the future failed.

All my realtionships are failure, they always end up hurting me so i dont have a choice but to let go. it is really painful when relationship ends because you loved the person but things didnt work right for both of you. And it is much painful when you share almost your life with him and expect he will be the one who will be your partner forever.

Hi there Simone!!

Females have a firm belief that they are wired naturally not be open in dealing with their male counterparts. Imagine a female going steady with a guy for 3 years and expecting to get married without voicing her intentions. Why spend 3 years with a guy and you can not tell him how you feel? Why believe that you will lose something by speaking openly with a guy you intend to marry? The only thing you will lose is pride and fear. My dear females, you are not wired to be closed, you chose to be closed because you are afraid of the outcome of being open.

Many females do not know the difference between trust and love. The story above indicates females' inability to love without trust. From my friend's story, that was the first time the man hit him and she was obviously shocked at his reaction. Since, I can not judge the man without hearing his own side of the story, I told her she was expected to love her hubby and trust God. Man is fallible, no matter how wonderful he appears and perfects himself to be. If females have it in the back of their mind that every man out there is not perfect, it will easier for them to transit issues flawlessly. They will commit their man to God, and confirm his strength not emphasize on his weakness. Jesus loved humans but did not commit himself to them because he knew they were weak.

There are many reasons why people get hurt when a relationship ends. Some of which are: 1.) they love the other persons so much that they couldn't imagine life without the other person, 2.) Their pride is eating on them because they couldn't accept that the other person broke up with him her and 3.) They never expected the break up to come.

For the first reason, the love you have for the other persons make you have a feeling of loss. It's as if a part of you have been taken away. The sad part is you know it would never come back.

For the second reason, some people, could not take that they were the ones being dumped, instead of them being the one doing the dumping. They could not accept the fact that the other person simply leaves him/her like that without him having a say.

FInally, for the third reason, the parties didnt expect that their love story would end, and it's ending cause them to feel depress on why they were nbot able to save the relationship.

That's all. I guess there are more reasons, but I guess, these are the main reasons

When I ended my relationship I was not hurt. I was angry that I waited so long to get rid of the sob. he was a lair, a cheater and also a dirty pig. I fely a great relief as we walked out the door with his belongings. One of the happiest days of my life.