Really Friends?

There are friends and then there are true friends and then there are Close friends. Just regular friends are the ones you only hear from every once in awhile.they are very causal.True friends you feel connected to . You know better than just the regular kind.And then there are close friends,the ones who Really know you . They know and keep your secrets and you keep theirs.I have been lucky ,I have found all three types here.I didn't seek this out ,it just happened.I cherish each and every friend. It is good to hear from the "regulars" I love that I can support the true ones and I would be lost , lost and depressed without my best friend.And what is great, he Knows it and he cherishs my friendship too!

This is one of the reasons why I don't like those sites. A person I used to work with saw my daughter and asked if I was a relative of hers. My girl checked with me then replied to this person that I was her Mum. We've caught up via a couple of messages and another workmate has also joined my short list. It takes her over a month to respond to my messages enquiring after her family etc. I really don't see the point of trying to get in touch with everyone you ever knew. I'm really only interested in myLot. Those other sites are a time waste to me. You can use the phone, send an email or talk face to face. These places are glorified chat rooms to my mind. Sure they are very popular and flavour of the month/year but what can you do there that you cannot do elsewhere? I spend time at another site that holds a lot of activity and interest for me and I have a small group of friends there. We have know each other for years Because of limitations on our discussion board we opened an account at Yahoo where we could talk freely. It's hardly ever used but about 80% of our members have now left to join FB. My friends have left and if I choose to stay behind...too bad.

I talk on the Phone with some of my Friends I have now got to the Stage I will only requests Friends if I know them already, but I am not on many Social Sites anyway and will not join any others either I have enough to do lol and I enjoy the ones I am with

I only have one other site where I have "friends" and it is what I know about them that took me back to the site, I had left it. I want to know when things are doing better for them, I want to help them and celebrate with them and be connected to them. Some of my online friends are more substantial than some of my real world friends.

And that is one topic I would love to address. I feel that any one person can have friends- people who have shown themselves as such, an ally, a comrade,your bosom buddy, side kick, advocate and those you know care and are there for you. Then there are those people I would call an acquaintance and they are the ones that act friendly, aren't really there for you and are shallow and non-complacient. And online it takes alot of consistancy to show themselves as real friends.

Hey worldwise! To me a "friend" is much more than an occasional response to a discussion! I believe in getting to know my friends alot better than that! I want to participate in their discussions so I can get to know their personality and get to know other things about them better! When I add someone to my "friends list" it means alot more to me than just an occasional response to a discussion! I can't speak for anyone else, but that is how I feel and I have made some very close friends here at mylot that way that I now speak to off of the Lot too!

Hi worldwise: thanks for opening this discussion. I have felt the smae your expressing here when i add some friends. If you ask what are friends i think i haven't found friends yet in mylot but at least i can consider that the people i add on my friend list are very nice and i agree with what they say and i love the discussions their open. That's not friendship but i put this name on them because we share at least some ideas in commun. Have a nice day and keep mylotting.