I don't know why the man scared to marry, and worry he will lost his freedom

Don't try to tell my girlfriend it's necessary. I'm the one that wants the wedding. She says she will stay with me forever. but doesn't want to get married. I just think she doesn't want to go through all the trouble it takes, all of the cost,etc. So sometimes, it's the woman that doesn't want to get married.

Love is not enough to make a man in his sensible and sane mind to marry his loved one. There are a lot of things to consider before getting married and if such man is a responsible man, he won't rush things and get things in their proper places first before getting married. What are these things?

First of all, marriage is a one way street and most men these days (yes, there are still a lot) view marriage as a sacred vow hence they don't want to make a mistake by marrying when they're not yet ready. If a man is serious with his girlfriend and wants her to be his wife, he'll take some time getting to know her more deeply and if possible, get an idea of how's life going to be between him and her once they get married.

Second is that marriage is a start of something new. It's a stage where two people leave their families and start a new one. At the same time it is a point where one ends his/her single life and lives a married life. A married life entails a lot more responsibilities than a life being single and trust me, love is not enough to sustain such responsibilities. One very important issue to consider in getting married is the finances. Does he already have a stable or good income to support his wife? And sooner his family? Many might say that love is far more important than money but unfortunately, love can't put food on children's mouths.

Another thing to consider is the level of maturity. Many people get married just because they were carried away by their emotions and later on realize that reality is not what they expected and thought to be. When hardships come, the feelings start to fade and the marriage turns sour. Mature people know what they want, how to get it, and when to get it. A married life requires lots of planning and decision making. The activities in a typical boyfriend-girlfriend relationship no longer applies. Marriage is actually more than the feeling of being "in love" and the butterflies and goosebumps. Mature people stay, hold on, and look for solutions when problems and hardships arise, immature people are instinctive and immediately give up once relationship problems occur.

Those are just some of the reasons why (serious and sincere) men aren't ready to get married. It's not actually losing one's freedom because one will never lose his/her freedom in a healthy relationship and a very understanding partner. Mose men are scared that they can't fulfill their duties as a husband and father very well so before getting married, they are making it sure that they are more than ready so life after marriage won't be that hard. It's a lot better to plan and put things in their proper perspective rather than deciding and doing things on impulse without taking any consideration about it's probable consequences.