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myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers4 weeks ago

Hi friends.. I am in a very bad situation right now.. I want this to share with you friends and get your thoughts and proceed further.. I am in dilema.. please share your opinions help me..

here goes my current situation..

In my current job.. I was working with my Senior from past 1.5 years.. Since now I am bit capable of working myself my company is assigning work for me directly.. so my senior should be out of the scene now.. but here comes the real problem.. Since he doesnt want to let go the control over me he is interfering with my part of work.. If I dont update him anything then he is not talking to me.. I dont know how to react.. sometimes I may need his help in future.. but if I let him interfer then I may not handle work independently in his absence.. and also I cant get good image in company because management thinks I still need someones help inspite of working for 2 years.. So please friends solve this situation for me..

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 88/100. samson1967 (4963)   ranked 7,034 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

The seniors will always fee unsecure, when somebody can handle the job independantly, to thwart the seniors interfearance, ensure to give a daily report at the end of the day, and make it clear that you cannot perform to the full extent, when there is a interfearance. All the best.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi samson.. I am mailing him the report end of the day but he interfers in middle.. If I solve anything he will go and update boss.. so in the boss's eye he will be the issue solver and boss thinks I am not working properly even a very small work.. this effects my future hikes and promotions..


myLot reputation of 85/100. paleorainy (581)   ranked 987 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Then go talk to boss and say exactly what you have said here. I think this situation shouldn't be dealt at your level nor at your Senir's level, but the boss should.

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2. myLot reputation of 82/100. vijiboopathy (410)   ranked 7,076 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Its indeed a difficult situation for you chaitra. I would suggest you to go along with your senior as he would help you in any situation and explain him some of the works which he has to know about it and it is not need for you to explain everything about the job assigned to you by the company. But have a smooth track with him. It would help you.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi vijiboopathy.. the problems comes to me once I explain everything to him.. since ours is a small company and our boss also involves in our projects for some difficult issues.. we need to update him the logic we used so that he will be aware of it.. once my senior gets to know the work I got he demands me to explain logic I used to him and soon after he will run to boss and update.. this is big problem for me.. boss thinks I am not working anything..


myLot reputation of 82/100. vijiboopathy (410)   ranked 7,076 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

I would say you to not to tell everything about the matter. Just tell him a little about it without he is suspecting you as you know everything. Do your work and make it clear to your boss about your work and if it is needed you could inform to your senior.

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3. myLot reputation of 84/100. dsnachiever (143)   ranked 3,509 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

It's a common problem which comes in corporate life. Do not think much about your senior because the problem is with him not with you. Do not allow him to interfere in your work but do talk to him offline. Offline means like people do general talk in the office. You behave with him like a colleague and concentrate on your work. He wants you to get tense with his behavior and commit mistakes in your work. So don't allow him to rule your metal situation. Keep it cool!


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi friend.. If I dont mind him much then he will not speak to me at all..he was a good friend to me.. only thing he is having is professional jealous upon me..

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4. lyte_face01 (59)   ranked 12,969 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

I'm sure many of the members here can give you tips on how to work out that problem. As for me, since its like you are torn between your senior and the one who directly assigns you with the tasks, if I may suggest, you may provide your senior with the list of those tasks and their status just for his/her information, not necessarily depending on his directions on how to do it, since instructions were already given to you. Because normally, your senior should know your activities. He still deserves to be part of the loop. Hope this helps.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi friend welcome to mylot.. I can explain him the assignment I got for the day.. but the thing is he will compell me to follow up his ways and he will run and update boss..


lyte_face01 (59)   ranked 12,969 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

That's really hard! And it takes a lot of COURAGE for you to have it talked about of how you feel with the situation with your senior and the company. In as much as you want to be efficient worker, you don't want to mess up with anyone.

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5. myLot reputation of 93/100. cloudwatcher (3246)   ranked 2,606 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Hi chaitra. I understand your problem. I have seen this happen many times. My suggestion would be to approach the company manager (the one who assigned the work to you) and ask for clarification of your duties. Tell him you are not clear as to your position and that of your senior and you don't want to do the wrong thing. Ask him plainly just what your position is. He should appreciate your honesty and desire to do the right thing.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi friend.. I think this is good.. Let me see for few more days and approach my boss.. and get a clarification..


myLot reputation of 97/100. LetranKnight25 (4151)   ranked 78 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

sadcan the guy just let her go and let her be independent so that some day she can help others as well instead of holding her back. i know it can be a bit insecure but if she made a mistake then it's her decision not his, risk if part of being independent in the companylollol


myLot reputation of 93/100. cloudwatcher (3246)   ranked 2,606 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Letran Knight, I agree this is what is needed, but Chaitra has no control over what HE does. If she goes to the one who gave her the assignments, he can clarify the situation and remedy it.

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6. Lupin3d (70)   ranked 15,941 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Hi Chaitra, I would suggest for you to just go along with him for the time being. I would be unacceptable for you to go against your senior at this point, however, as I am sure you are able to communicate with your big boss, you can inform the big boss your work done and the things that you have contributed to the company.


Lupin3d (70)   ranked 15,941 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Oh. BTW, please make it look like you do not have something against your senior. Example: "Boss, we are currently working on improving our agents performance and have been able to increase their resolution rate by 5% for the week. What I did was..."

No need for you to tell your boss, "I am the one who did that".


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi Lupin3d.. I can do that but if my senior informs the boss before me then its a waste of informing boss from my side.. boss will think senior had done most of the work and I just did small things that to with his help..


Lupin3d (70)   ranked 15,941 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi Chaitra, let him. In any case, the person who pretends will always be caught when the time comes he is tested. For the mean time, tolerate as much "Crap" (Sorry for the word) you can get from your senior.

Believe me when I say you will get you chance soon but you have to make sure you make it look like you do not know what your senior is doing.

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7. myLot reputation of 78/100. SouravRC (226)   ranked 6,120 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Many people here have given you lots of advices, for your help; but believe me there's no way out. It's a catch 20 situation. You cannot runaway from it or change it. At best you can try to sort it out with your senior by some talking but believe me again that'll not help you in a long term. Because your senior will be doing the same thing after few days. You have to face the situation. Or leave the job and get new one. But things would be different from now... well, there's no guarantee.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi you are right.. but I dont want to change my job because this company is good and I have got into a good project.. timings of the company and the traveling distance everything is just fine for me.. and also now a days no much opening s outside if I change also risk of loosing new job is very high at this time..


myLot reputation of 78/100. SouravRC (226)   ranked 6,120 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Yes, and it is not advisable also to change the job. Mainly because there's no certainty that you won't face the same situation in the new job. This is not a strong reason to change the job. Your situation is pretty uneasy but nothing much can be done!


Lupin3d (70)   ranked 15,941 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  3 weeks ago

Hi all. I think the best solution would be to bear with it. Take the hit but do not run away. Soon enough, you will get a chance to get back at your senior.

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. LetranKnight25 (4151)   ranked 78 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

happyhello, i believe some one doesn't want you to rise from the trenches and instead tries to get credit from all of your work. that's not what a senior should and i consider that an abuse of power. it's either you file a complaint to the boss of what you're senior is upto or record both of your works and his updates so that you can have evidence to show that you don't need his help anymorethumbupthumbup


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi friend.. this seems to be a good idea.. I will try this out..thanks for your suggestion..

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. Sreekala (1652)   ranked 38 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Hi Chaitra,

I am sorry to learn that you are facing a problem in your office. I know it is difficult to handle because we need the cooperation from our colleagues irrespective of their status (senior or junior) for a peaceful environment in our office. I know your nature; you don’t want to hurt your senior at the same time you want to prove your professional skill too. I think it is better to talk your boss directly, if she/he can understand you well then your problem will be solved. You can request your boss to provide independent works to you, so that you can prove your professional skill.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi Sreekala.. you are right working environment must be peaceful to do efficient work.. yes my boss wants me to work independently so he is assigning me jobs directly.. but my senior doesnt want to loose his power and credits from my hardwork.. so he is acting like this.. inspite he was a good friend to me before.. dont know how people change on time..


myLot reputation of 95/100. Sreekala (1652)   ranked 38 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  4 weeks ago

Hi Chaitra, if your boss is supportive then no need to worry. You can't spoil your career just for a friend so doesn’t give much importance on his attitude.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  3 weeks ago

yes dear I too think the same..

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10. myLot reputation of 82/100. reeyan (456)   ranked 354 out of 19,055 in questions & answers   4 weeks ago

Hi chaitra001

I have read your discussions hours ago. But I try to realize the situation arose to you and try to find what would be the best solution for you.

But the situation is the contextual phenomenon. I think you get what I want to say. I want to elaborate..... Same situation for various individual carry different impact. That means what the situation you feel uncomfortable that may be very comfortable for other one.

So the best way to tackle a situation in own way is the best. So What I now go to suggest you may not be effective for you. But what will be the best to bring that situation under your control I will now try to state here. Its my humble suggestion. But before taking any action you should think twice on the matter.

First thing is that you too be little practical. As he is your senior so it is in his disposal to guide you to some extent. If he interfere more than his boundary you should give him the hints whether is he crossing his boundary. For that you have to impressed him with your personality. Personality never be ignored. You have to make little improvement in your personality. you should mind another matter that he never be find any fault in your deeds of the job.

Second thing ... I think your senior is not the supreme boos you your company. There are some one who is senior that the senior of you. You have to do your job like that way that you come to the notice of the senior of your senior. And if your senior of your senior will impressed by your activity then the interfere of him automatically reduced.

Noe third thing you are facing the situation. So you the best judge of the situation. So now you have to fine the way of the remedy.


myLot reputation of 93/100. chaitra001 (595)   ranked 44 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  3 weeks ago

Hi reeyan.. thanks for giving me very good suggestions.. your words helped me to take little more courage to face this situation.. I will think a lot before taking any further step to this situation..


myLot reputation of 82/100. reeyan (456)   ranked 354 out of 19,055 in questions & answers  3 weeks ago

Hi


Good luck. thumbup

I am sure that you have the ability to mitigate the problem arose for you.

Just to take the ability in force. I think you get what I meant to say. thumbup

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