Can a person really forget? In the sense of erasing the incident from our memory

you can never forget anything
it is just the feeling of hurt changes into sorry and goes to your idle banks
as we reconcile unfinished task first
so hurted ones appear earlier then others thus
we should finish tassk and refresh ourselves for new tasks of the world it helps in growing as a peerson

No, some things just cannot be forgotten, even though they may be forgiven. And as these incidents have obviously had a major impact on your life and the person you are today, I don't think they should be forgotten. What we should avoid is allowing our experiences to embitter us, so that we develop a warped view of life and people. Learn from all experiences, good and bad, then store them away and move on. It's the only sensible thing to do, in my opinion.

I think that it would be best for us to forgive. And when we forgive, it is easier to be happy and move on. It may not be totally forgetting what had happened but the best thing is that there is no bitterness that we have in our heart. Forgive and forget is a common saying. It is difficult but it's the best option we can choose for those who have hurt us.

Hi Manong,

This is the gift from our God that most of the person having
the tendency of forgets in later otherwise it is too difficult
to live or manage the life. When we are having the ability to
have more memory, without forgets then we always keep on remembering
bad incidents which was happened to us, and also we can not think
our life in positive mind, so this is really too hard and even can not
think our life. That is the reasons the God given the option to the
mankind to forgets all the things within short of time .

Have a wonderful day.

I had just finished responding to a discussion earlier and thought I have poured out a bit there. It was something about losing faith in God. What happened to us about six years ago was a thing not anyone would wish to happen to themselves. The death of my husband six years ago is unresolved up to this time. Although I do not know who did it and I cannot understand why, I can say I have forgiven them and lifted everything to God. During the time immediately succeeding that incident, there were so much pain, grief and hatred. I even thought of things to avenge for his death. I was utterly in total confusion, insecurity, sadness and worry for my children and myself. I was totally down emotionally and I didn't want to do anything but cry. I had to go on leave for about 6 months as I was not emotionally and physically well to be at work. Pain, grief, hatred didn't go away for a very long time. Looking back, I am now glad to have friends who really supported me during those times. I had to rise above those ill feelings because of my children. Slowly as I groped my way in time, I was seeing some light of hope and understanding. I forced myself to embrace the thought that things happen for a reason; that God allowed it to happen because He finds me strong to bear it. I may not understand why but I know He has His reasons for everything. I have slowly helped myself and although I cannot say that the pain is totally removed, but it has been tremendously lessened. I am just glad that with time, my children and I have gone through it and now feel well and okay in His love and blessings. (sorry for my outpouring and sorry for the missing malunggay )

Hello
Awesome question. I am dealing with question myself. I think we need to forgive the person who hurts us but to never forget. We also need to forgive ourselves too in order for us to move on.
My ex who is in 40's had a baby behind my back with a 22 year old by invetro so I am just getting over it now. I was told last Christmas about the baby and the female moved in with him. It was very hard very hard to get over it. I thought about revenge or way to back him for it but in long run it would hurt me more because it would like I was the crazy one and not him. He is in the military too and I they lived by a code of ethics but I was shown wrong. I been asking God why now when I was with him for ten years and through the wars of Iraq and Kosvo and Afghanstan etc... he did ask me to carry his baby I said no because I am in my 40's too and I have two children age 20 and 17 and brought them up by myself I was divorced when my second child was 1 year old and him bein in the military I would be taking care of this child all by myself. The other thing that made say no was because he never remeber my birthday or Christmas or sent cards or letters. I sent cards and gifts for Christmas and his birthday to his house for the first 3 years and when I realised it was not going to be reciprocated I stopped. He never invited me to Mom funeral this was 5 years into the relationship and never invetied me to his brother funeral which was 7 years into the relationship I found the funeral home for the viewing on the our local newspaper website and went there and he shooed me out by saying there was FBI there... yea right. I want to take the higher road so forgiveness is the first step and letting go is the next step without any revenge involved. I hope I become a better person because of this in the end. But I will never ever forget what he did to me.
Thanks for awesome question
Unique16

For as long as I can remember I have had a fear of cars. My Mum told me the other day that when I was 10yrs old I walked into were my uncle was working. There was a car on the back of a lorry they were taking it off the back. I got it the way and it nearly came down on my head, luckily my Uncle saw me just in time, but it scared me to death. I have absolutely no memory of the incident at all.

I can clearly remember being that age and it surprised me that I cannot remember the incident, but it seems my brain erased it to try and stop my fear I guess.

Other than this I feel if someone has done you wrong sometimes it is impossible to forget even if you want to. I don't know the brain is a very complicated piece of equipment

Well, actually we cannot really forget about it at all... Unless we had severe an amnesia or somethings like that...LOL anyway just like what you have said above And also, it is more about how we deal, react and live with it... We must always try to have positive thinkings! thats what can make the difference on how fast we can be healed. Atleas thats my oppinion!:) happy postings!Well, actually we cannot really forget about it at all... Unless we had severe an amnesia or somethings like that...LOL anyway just like what you have said above And also, it is more about how we deal, react and live with it... We must always try to have positive thinkings! thats what can make the difference on how fast we can be healed. Atleas thats my oppinion!:) happy postings!

Sometimes we think it would be a good thing if we had a "clear" button on our memory banks, but I am thankful we don't.

As you already know, I suffered extreme abuse of all four kinds for the first 22 years of my life. I have vivid memories of that time but I wouldn't want them erased. In fact I am thankful for them, because they made me what I am today.

I remember what happened very clearly - BUT I remember without any recriminations, without any malice, without any feelings of revenge, without any ill-will, without any self-pity, without any "bad" feelings of any sort. I remember with deep feelings of pity for the perpetrators and a desire that they could have known a better life, then and since. They suffered later but their suffering was not on my shoulders. I wish they could have known a better life.

Forgive and forget? No.
Forgive and forget the feelings of ill will, of grudges, of "poor me".
Forgive and remember with a clean heart.
Forgive and remember, being thankful that you have been enabled to rise above.

no, we can never forget. The things the hurt or the things which gave us pain will always be in our memory. We forgive people but it doesn't mean we can forget what happened. We don't forget, rather we neglect the memory, we convince ourselves that everything has been resolved. but true enough, the pain will always be there, the wounds may heal but the marks will remain.