I Need You Because I Love You or I Love You Because I Need You?

Hi Eureka,

This is not a fair this guy neglect his wife and he would like
to stand his own leg now and never bother about the wife or girlfriend.
This was happened to most of the girlfriend and boyfriend, so when they
are jobless and starts to love their boyfriend or girlfriend, and love
much and then married, after some times when they are getting good job
and money, then they would starts to neglect the girlfriend or boyfriend
and want to enjoy the life in alone with other girls or boys. So this
is a tragedy and can not accepted by anyway.

Have a nice day.

the thing is that you are terming love as a thankful business please dont mention it as love if you mean that
the contract togetherness often happens when people are equal and proffessionally active but the thing is that
professional activeness can lead to being close and getting married for personal interest but it is not love
in love one sacrifices everything
it cant be one sided as it appeared from your situation
it is habit of guys to use in throw
but here the case is same but the way is different
you have started a nice discussion i appreciate ur maturity on this subject and i would like to be involved more and more in your such discussion so do add me
i also want to tell you that contract gets void in certain condition being famous and independent is one of them

I think needing someone because you love them is a much better relationship then loving someone because you need them.

Well my friend, its not the way your friend should behave. If he thinks he doesn't love her wife, it may be the truth of today, he must give some time to himself, spend some time with her wife and will start loving her. Love can be generated after treating someone in a very special manner and marriage is very special in itself.
One must not forget the times when he was really helped by someone. Either he shouldn't married and now if he done this, his aim must be to give her wife the all happiness of the life which she really deserves and never feel like he doesn't love her.
Psychology always matters a lot. When he thinks he doesn't love her wife, he would never able to get close to her but if he starts thinking that yes, someday he'll be loving her wife with the depth of his heart, he'll for sure do. God bless him!

If I have to make a choice between them, "I need you because I love you" may make a lot of sense.

It is really difficult to make a choice. From where I stand, it is wrong to force yourself to love someone simply because you need them. One would not only be using the other person but would also be being untrue to oneself. If you need one because you love him/her, I guess you need them because their appearance makes your life complete.

If one really falls in love with each other, then they will be together and their is nothing of needs. Happy myLotting!

In my opinion a marriage is give and take. It is never equal. My relationship with my husband has been a good one for 20 years. He supports me no matter if i'm going through good or bad times as I do him.

I would take you to a different plane not just a relationship between husband and wife but relationships in general. I have always been a fairy godmother to several in my life and after their success in life most of them avoid me and what was then called involvement is now termed as interference. This attitude is more a rule than an exception and I have come to accept it as something normal which happens to everybody in life.

People tend to confuse love and affection. It is very probable for me that this guy thought he loved her especially during some hard moments in his life. As the girl helped her emotionally or financially he started to like her and perhhaps was attracted by her. He would have never married her if he was not serious nd was just pretending.... I do not approved what he did either because marriage is sacred and we should marry our loved one by taking the time to know the person very well and the relationship must be maintained with gifts, loving words and respect.

Hi dear!
Our life is a hard reality and people love somebody because they need his/her company. Everything in this materialistic world has become need based and people keep their utter selfish motives in their minds, when they start building a relationship with someone.

Hi friend although am not in any relationship now except that of Jesus Christ that die for me on the cross but i can not neglect Him when am rich and satisfied