People Asking for Advice When.....
By levite
@levite (1062)
Philippines
November 10, 2009 3:23am CST
they already had an answer to their problems. Why do they ask for good advice yet they had already made up their mind. I think they just want someone who is just going to agree with what they would want to happen. People like these don't need advice but a sympathizer for them. What do you think. Do you have similar experience wherein someone wanted a good advice from you but in the end, you have found out that they had already made up their minds? Kindly share your experiences and views about this.
3 responses
@barbara7321 (240)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Maybe we just need encouragement. I talk a lot of my problems here. Sometimes just typing my discussion and reading it outloud makes me realize how pathetic I sound...lol. Oh well.
@classicemcegy79 (152)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Hmmm, you sound like you're ranting ;]
In my humble opinion, I think that sometimes they ask to get confirmation or a second opinion on their answers. Sometimes they want good advice to actually affect how they think. Other times, like in your post, people may not consider your advice even when they ask for it.
If they do not consider another's opinion when requested, I think that it is their loss, really. I hope this helps. :]
@levite (1062)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Oh no, no. You have misinterpreted it. I'm not ranting. So what some people really need is opinion not an advice. If someone really needs a "good advice" they must heed it although it is not compatible with what they want to happen. Of course I'm not referring to medical advice, legal advice, or some professional advice for I'm not really into that. But if somebody approaches me asking for really good advice, for example, regarding his plan to settle down, especially if that person is really closed to me, like a relative or closed friend, i would not counsel that person for his ruin because I love him but I will tell him regarding the possible consequences of his plan (for example he's going to marry a substance user). But in the end it's his decision that would matter.
But, as you say, they really want is opinion not really an advice. Why do they just say, "I need an opinion about this matter..." it's much better than an advice. Hope you get my point. 
@bluerainhong (400)
• China
10 Nov 09
hi, levite, seems I always experiences this! Tell you the truth, I just want to prove my own answer whether it is true or false, or I am not sure of it, just want to perfect it by asking for others'advice. Or you can say I am not very confident of myself.
