Is it wrong to post funeral pictures on Facebook?

I am truly sorry for your loss, and know that you will be feeling extremely vulnerable for a while. Several months after my grandfather passed away a friend knocked one of the silk flowers from one of his funeral bouquets that my family members divided amongst ourselves onto the floor. I freaked out--yelling and crying--at the idea that something so precious and still hurting so badly had touched the ground.

However, with that point established, know that funerals (as sad and upsetting as they are) are in fact family events. You are getting to reconnect with people you may not have seen in a while, making it almost like a family reunion. Taking pictures could just be a way of remembering being one with relatives.

The posting of them is a bit shocking. Yet, at the turn of the 20th century, it was very common to take pictures of the recently deceased actually in their coffin then framing it and placing it in the house as a memento and reminder of the person. Pictures at funerals aren't anything new, and once you progress through the grieving process you might actually like the pictures at how many people showed up to express their love for your father.

I am so sorry for your loss and yes I think that you are justified in feeling as you do.
Having said that though and having children myself, I do find that they do things differently. Perhaps this is her way of coping with this. my brother died in August and me and my family were his closest family and I have noticed that my 3 children (although Adults) have all coped with it in different ways from not wanting to mention anything, to looking at photos and just wanting to talk about it so we all cope in our own ways.
Please try and ask her if she feel better putting them on facebook and hopefully she will open up and tell you why.
My feelings are with you.

iam sorry to hear that. i think had same experience like you and had same express. after my oldest sister passed away January 2008, my sister (younger than my sister which passed away) post picture about his body. you know, iam angry, very angry to my sister and i say that the picture is about us and i dont want everyone which is her online friends will see the picture.

I am sorry to hear of your lose, I lost my dad to a couple of years ago and I was the biggest Daddys girl! Its still very hard. Every peson is so dif on this picture matter. I found that some people get really offended if anyone even takes pictures and others insist on it! It really is hard to say whats right or wrong. If she knew you were offended she would prob take them down so Im sure it was not intentional to hurt you. Just like I was saying some people do not see it that way. Either way dont let it pose an issue between you because you need each other at a time like this and I hope it all works out. My prayers go out to you and your family for comfort

Hi PSmith721

I don't think so. Death is the part of the life. All the people who passed away from our life. Funeral is the process to offer our honor and to say good by to them. So I find nothing odd in that. Why people fear the death and the funeral. We should not scare of death and funeral. It is inevitable so we should strengthen our mind the face it. I think funeral is the honor no horror there.

Thank you

Keep posting there.

My condolences for your tremendous loss, if you are feeling anything like I felt when I lost my father.. the emotion held within is great and not felt the same by everyone, not even immediate family.

I rather wish your daughter had mentioned to you that she was wishing to do what she did. I don't 'do' Facebook at all, but it is a social site where friends and relatives can meet and share.. and there is the thing.

Maybe, Your sorrow is in your heart and soul, in your memories that fill many moments, in thoughts and words that come to mind, a look a gesture a simple smile and you are again in that journey through such sorrow.

Your daughter may have a very real need to express openly this sorrow by talking about it and showing pictures. Should she have consulted you first. I wish she had. IS she grieving? I am so sure she is. .. her way.

I wish I could ease it here for you, but, alas, I cannot. I too would have been shocked and hurt. I would hope, though, that I could get beyond it somehow, so that the memories and my grieving process isn't disturbed further by something I cannot let go of..
Thanks for telling us about this.. a very good idea.. to get feedback for yourself and to share your feelings. Do as you think best in this case.. you alone know your daughter so well to know if you can discuss it with her.. good luck.. hugs

Sorry to hear about your recent loss but coming to what you posted about having funeral pictures on facebook, i think it's fine and okay to me. Probably it's just a way of expression from your daughter. She may treat Facebook as a place where she collects and post up pictures and photographs for her own memories. I guess that is fine and may not be as disturbing as if she post funeral pictures of other people or people whom is not related at all. That would be more disturbing.

I am so sorry to hear that. I have never met such a situation, but I can understand totally what you are saying.

I can't agree with you anymore. In fact, I believe most people who are facing such a situation will think it is wrong to post funeral pictures on Facebook and other places online. Althouth it's no big deal for other people who are not familiar with this thing, for you, it is not strange to feel this hurt because emotions are still so very raw. If you can recover gradually, then you will not regard it as a wrong action.

In my eyes, it is unnecessary to pay much attention to them. Instead, try your best to recover to normal and then I guess you will find that all things are right.

First may I say how sorry I am for your loss. I lost my father three years ago and it was a very painful ordeal. After the initial anger at life and God himself for letting him die, I went into a deep depression. Nothing or no one could reach me. I was so disillusioned with the fact that we live only to grow old and die and leave our loved ones behind. I tell you this because it exemplifies how each of us grieves differently.

Last month, I lost my mother. My sisters, nieces and I have put pictures up of my mom through the years and mentioned the loss on Facebook. My Uncle (mom's brother) passed away the month before Mom. My cousins put up pictures from the funeral gathering. I live over a thousand miles away from my Uncle and was unable to attend. The pictures made me feel a unity with the family and I was able to let go of my pain more easily. I loved my Uncle very much. Because of the pictures I did not feel as left out that way.

Most of my friends on Facebook are family or very close friends. Also Facebook pictures are not for the whole world to see. There are privacy settings so that only your friends or family can see the pictures.

I empathize with the pain you are feeling in your grief. I do understand the pain of losing a parent. To your daughter, sharing the loss may be how she is coping with her pain. No doubt she is grieving and is expressing her love for your father. Many of my father's and mother's grandchildren were paying last respects to my parents on Facebook.

The world is different than when we were young. To younger people Facebook is the place they meet their close friends. In my day, we may have met at a coffee shop or a park. When there was an event that moved us emotionally, whether lifting or saddening, we wanted to share it with our friends. Sharing was a way of intensifying the good and coping with the painful.

In her heart, I am certain your daughter was expressing her grief and love for her grandfather and in no way meant to do anything dishonorable or hurtful to you.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss and the sorrow you are experiencing.