Friendships..Online/offline..Young/old
@greenfeathers (1206)
United States
November 17, 2009 8:27am CST
While I was surfing in one of my hangouts this morning there was discussion going on in the chat about friendships.
One aspect was the ease with which one makes friends when younger as opposed to older. The other aspect was the ease of making online friends as opposed to offline friends..
Personal opinion on the age question is that when younger we're searching for folks to be with..Even frivilous friendships give us a feeling of being within a group, a comfort zone away from being alone..But when older we are more discerning and take more care in how and why we chose our friends.
As for the online/offline question I think it is easier to make friends online than off. Online folks don't see the way you dress, the car you drive, the jewelry you have, the way you carry yourself as you move and similar things that lead to preconceived notions of who one might be prior to actually getting to know the person. In sites like Mylot and similar social sites and chatrooms one meets the person, the personality, the beliefs without the preconceived notions..
There it is..What's your spin on either or both?
Enjoy!
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@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Nov 09
The friendship we developed in our young age tends to last forever. We give our heart and soul to the person we like and feel proud of our friendship. It is a special kind of bondage. That friendship is connected to our heart.
On line friendships are the relationship of the advanced minds. It is the culmination of finding a person to share the thoughts and time with. One cannot equate this one with the friendships we nurture with our bosom friends. Though some good relationship may be formed, generally the on line friendships use our brains and seldom goes deep into our heart and souls.
@EdTv00 (298)
• United States
18 Nov 09
You make allot of good points. It is very true that it is easier to make friends online then in the real world. People are quick to judge you by your appearance or by the material things you posses. In the cyber world, anyone from any background social or financial can be friends. Good discussion
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Hi feathers,
I couldn't agree with you more. I don't know if it is our nature or the way we were brought up, but for some reason we judge people by appearance. We automatically put up a wall not allowing us to get closer to what is within that person and their personality, their beliefs, their priceless knowledge (young and old, their sense of humor, and so much more. All because of their appearance. Online the outside appearance isn't there most of the time. We get to know the person first and then the unique character that comes with it.
I do have to admit that I like to see everyones face if possible. A face gives me a better connection with that person. I listen with my head and my heart so as not to miss the pure essence of that person. Good post feathers.
Leenie
