Blocking people on Facebook (I hate doing this, but...)

United States
November 22, 2009 1:08pm CST
Everyone should know that I hate blocking people on Facebook, and I only do it if I feel threatened or if someone is harassing me in some way. Well, I got one of those people just a few days ago and he could not take "NO" for an answer. He sends me a message with the highlighted topic "Looking for Romance", and I am thinking, "is this spam", it did not look like spam. Also, I have on my page "In A Relationship", it is there for all the world to see. This man was relentless. I told him that I had a boyfriend. I told him that I would not add him to my "Friends List" because he is not a friend and we have never met in person (for Facebook and MySpace, people only get added to my list if I have met them in person and if we have real conversations with each other in person). I told him that I would not get Yahoo Messenger because I do not like Instant Messenger(it's not something I like to do because I don't really see the point). When he was telling me about himself, he did not seem real. He seemed so fake. I say this because of the things he was telling me. I then looked at his Friends List, and that really made me question what this man wanted. I was scared now. For a man who was allegedly "well traveled", his "Friends List" did not show it. His page in general made me really question who he was because nothing he was telling me seemed real. It just seemed strange. He told me that he owned a fabric company in West Africa, he was "well traveled", he lost his father and inherited a fortune from him, it was just weird. He contacted me completely out of the blue. I have never met and/or seen this man before, and he was telling me all of this, and it just didn't seem right. For the record, I am from California, I am pretty "well traveled" as well, and I have friends of all races and backgrounds. Of course, all of my friends are people that I have known from all of my years in school, college, family, people from work, and people I have met at Comic Conventions. Seriously, in regards to Facebook and MySpace, I have to meet you in person, and talk to you in person, before I add you. This is because people from my personal life are on these social networking site. The only reason I do not do this with My Lot is because no one I know from my personal life is on here, at least, not that I know of. Also, I do not really have any major personal information on this site like I do on Facebook and MySpace. I blocked him because there was no way I was putting up with this any longer. This man, in my estimation, was not being honest. I cannot trust people like this. I believed that this man could possibly have been attempting to scam me or something. Some person from Nigeria tried this with me before, he wanted money from me, and I had to block him, then I had to get a new e-mail address, and get a new MySpace page. It was Hell. I never want to go through that ever again. Has this happened to anyone on Facebook or MySpace? Have you been harassed or threatened to the point that you had to block the person or report them? How bad was the situation?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 09
This happens all the time on myspace. even an old lady like myself have had this and lots of others. its all a scam from guys in nigeria and such places trying to get here. and/or get money from us. theres a group on myspace called "no scammers" that i belong to that helps investigate these guys and report them. As soon as they say they are in Africa on a job, i know they are one of them and i report and block them. i hate IM also and i plainly list that in large letters on my site, yet guys still say lets IM i tell them obviously they havent read my profile as well as they say.
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• United States
23 Dec 09
That is what he wanted. He wanted me to IM him, and I kept saying "no". I told him that if he wanted to talk to me he could talk to me from where he was at. He kept trying to make me do things that I did not want to do, so I blocked him. Also, his friend's list! No one on his friend's list was any other race, except black! This worried me. I knew he wasn't right.
• United States
23 Dec 09
Everyone on his friends list was African, or Black. No one was White, Native, Asian, Latino, Middle Eastern, or any other race. If you look at my friend's list, I have a diversity of people on there.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
10 Dec 09
That sounds like a scary situation! I've never had to block anyone (knock on wood) from either of these social networking sites. Like you, I only add people I know or have known from real life on there. And like you, I have personal information and pictures on there that I'm willing to share only with them. Both my myspace and facebook accounts are set to private, so only people on my friends list can view these pages. Have you done this with yours as well? If not, you may want to do so, so that not everyone has access to viewing it. It's just a thought. Happy mylotting!
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• United States
10 Dec 09
After this happened, I made sure that every last thing on my page was set to private. This was a very scary situation, and sadly, not the first time this has happened to me before. This is the first time that this has happened on Facebook, but not the first time that this has happened online. I guess I am just an easy target, and I cannot figure out why? There is nothing about my page and nothing about me that looks out of the ordinary. Maybe I look friendly? I don't know.