Can you still say that YOU are good mother even if you are fighting with them?

hi every mother is always dream to be the best mom ever... but it is really depend on kids, how much they get from you. I have 5 years old daughter as well and I know how hard to make sure she goes in the same road with you... kids learn different things everyday and they will try to be one of them, be themselves. sometimes you have to play along with her and then show her some in your way... then she will learn, two things at the same time. Kids love to think they are right, and we are wrong but for me, I never let my kids think im wrong even I am in one. why I do that? cuz I am the mother so mother is also make a mistake but we have to correct it as fast as you can to make sure they get the message . I don't think you miss anything... you just think too much about it... take it easy and you will be alright

parenting cannot be the same for everyone, people try to raise their children based on books they read, and tips they get. but every child is different, there are only a couple rules that stay the same for everyone of them. a good rule for parenting is to be interactive with your child, do things with them! people also get this mixed up, they think they need to go to the mall with their children or force them to do things with them. This is wrong too. do things with them, like homework, chores, fun activities, movies, games, etc.. parents treat their children kind of like slaves "go do your chores" then they stay sitting down or something, and the child feels slave-ish. so do the things with them, when enforcing punishment ( say pushups ) "you didn't do this, so now you have to do 10 pushups" when they do the 10 pushups, do them with them, so they know that they did wrong, but they don't feel like your just "ruining theirs lives" trying to be a role model is better than not trying to be, there are a lot of parents out there, who don't pay attention to their children, and their children suffer because of this. did you know that children who get what they want (tvs, money, cars, clothes, toys and what not) most of the time, want their parents more than anything? if you spend a lot of time at your job, this could be affecting your children. If you need to spend a lot of time at your job, thats good too, you cant feed and cloth your children with "feelings" but let them know, that its best for them. let them know that you love them, and that you want them to have a good life. again, your trying to figure things out, thats more that a lot of parents, so your doing good. oh and ask them, a lot of times, people try to figure things out, without finding out what the real problem is. talk to your children about what "they" want. you'd be surprised at what listening can do =]

..hi.. you've been a very good mother and I don't see that you failed.. Considering the age of your daughter, she is on the stage of discovering herself and discovering the world around her.. and what she does is a natural thing.. it doesn't mean that you failed in teaching and guiding her.. It's just that, she wanted something.. It is fine for u, mothers to scold our daughters.. however, we have to really explain to them the reason why we did such things after a while.. Maybe you have to give your daughter a little freedom to discover right and wrong things.. for example you tell her it's bad and insist on doing it, just leave her and when the consequence comes because she insisted doing it, that's the time you tell her not to do the thing again because the same result will arise.. sometimes, it's not enough for us to say NO to them.. they want to prove it their selves and they want to know why we said NO.. it's ok.. for me, a good mother is someone who knows when to scold a child and when not to.. Don't be depress looking for your fault because you have no fault at all.. it is just part of children as they grow up.. If you try to ask your parents, they will tell you that you had those tendencies too before because it's really part of growing up.. cheer up..