How do you feel about the contribution of love between you and your partner?
By agonyaunt69
@agonyaunt69 (343)
Hong Kong
December 2, 2009 12:04am CST
When in a relationship, your contribution of love is much more than your partner, how do you feel?
I believe every relationship is the same. It is hardly to find a relationship that the both of them contribute the same amount of love in the sense of quality and quantity. As love is a thing that could not be measured or counted. It comes out naturally. It should be pure and simple.
I saw many couples or lovers quarelled about who loved the others more, and asked or wanted the partner to love more or even to change. I think it is right to communicate between the two and good to clarify some issues. However, we can't ask others to do the same as ourselves when it is talking about love. It is not an assignment and it is no frame or rules on that. It is our true feeling and cannot be adjusted or amended so easily, or it becomes unreal.
When we love someone, we have to accept what he/she has, no matter it is good or bad. The more you love and the deeper you love, the more happiness and sadness you feel. It is fair. However, remember not to hurt yourself when you feel hurt. When bad things happen in a relationship, the most important thing that helps is to love yourself. Life is important, don't easy to give up!
Cheers and best wishes,
agonyaunt69
(2:00pm Wednesday 2 December 2009, Hong Kong time)
4 responses
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Dec 09
Hi agony!
Very useful and practical advice you have furnished through your post and I appreciate your efforts and advice. We should not hurt ourselves, even if our partner says something nasty because s/he loves us also so s/he may also get angry sometimes (may be temporarily). We should continue to shower our love and affection to our partner to stregthen our relationship. It takes drop by drop effort to build up a relationship and we should be patient enough to get along with the other partner.
@fantasticbabe (981)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
having partner is good as you have someone to love and gives lots of attention and care. then in times of sadness their is someone to cheer you up.
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Hi. I think it's just a matter of judgment and perspective. I don't think we could really quantify love. I don't know how to determine whether I love my husband more than he loves me OR the other way around. This is because the expression of love differ from one person to another. For example, we could not really say that I love my husband more than he loves me if between the two of us I'm the one who always say "I love you" or I'm the one who always say and do good things for him. Sometimes, people are just not expressive of their love. Most of the time, our loved one's company is enough to assure us that we are being loved in return.
Unless of course, you've got your husband or wife against his or her will. Say, you've forced him/her to marry you, or you've used love potion (if it does really work?), or you've just strategized or manipulated him/her and other people around you to make the marriage possible. I believe that we have a "different story" in these cases.
I believe that only the "insecure" people think so much to the point that they tend to quantify love.
@mariashieryl (61)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Anything less than mad love is not worth fighting for. Yes it is true that quantity and quality cannot be measured in contribution and this kind of relationship, it is immeasurable.
You just have to feel it to believe and when you know its real, you know you can love yourself and your partner in the true sense and meaning of love.
