christmas (tat) number six - the guzzling
By jb78000
@jb78000 (15139)
December 4, 2009 4:22am CST
i think all of us have a few friends or relatives who we worry about because they eat or drink too much anyway. and over christmas everybody is encouraged to guzzle their own weight in food and slurp ridiculous amounts of alcohol. it is sad, and if you are already worried about somebody's weight or liver then distressing. in my case i have had one relative die at 40 from alcohol related cancer and a friend die at the same age from a heart attack due in part to obesity. i am now at the stage where if i think somebody is damaging their health then i will tell them and will certainly not be encouraging them to overindulge at this time - what about you, would you say something to somebody you though was endangering themselves? and would you say something during a festive overindulgence or keep it till later?
here is the obligatory song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjPjysB89vM
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Dec 09
I did not have any heavy drinkers in my immediate family but when I got married my ex's brothers could pack some away both in the eating and the drinking department. We would just take them home on our way because the holidays were always spent at the in-law's folks. It was a nice time for all.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Dec 09
I think I am good to go then. I rarely do so and may not even have any.
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
18 Dec 09
Hello, Judith. I tend to go for quality rather than quantity at Christmas, with different foods but not in industrial quantities. My husband has cirrhosis of the liver, and he's not supposed to drink, but he does - until he frightens himself and thinks he's about to die, then he goes on the wagon for a couple of months.
People who overindulge don't tend to respond well to advice, because they fool themselves that they don't have a problem, so I don't tend to say anything. As far as my husband's concerned, when I think he needs it, I get a trusted friend to have a word with him and tell him I'm terrified of being left a widow. That usually helps for a while.
@Louc74 (620)
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4 Dec 09
Hmmm... that's a toughie. If it was bad enough for me to say something, I'd get them when they were on their own - humiliation about something you may already be sensitive about would just make things worse.
Also, with some people, intervention just won't work if they're still in denial. It can take a horrible experience to make them realise they need to do something. So yeah, give it a good try, but be prepared to be rebuffed, in which case make sure they know you're there if and when they were ready to do something about it.
