Why is my friend so critical of me?

I am sorry to say this but she is not your friend, you are more of a friend to her. Personally, I hate people who are critical, they are very difficult to leave with and it is a very bad habit. If you are fed up with her critisism, keep away from her.

Friends criticise only constructively but if you find that is not the case with this person surely she is not your friend. You better keep away from her and slowly drift away.

This person does not sound like a genuine friend. A true friend will appreciate you for who you are and generally is there for you. You are more of a friend to her than she has been to you. I think you should let go. You cant help her anymore

Hi, bluehibiscus. I am surprised that the tables are not turned onto her instead! I mean, she is the one that needs to have a complete makeover! I am not trying to diss your friend, but she has some straightening up to do herself! The reason why you are abnormal to her is because you are normal and that, you are not coordinating up to her style. She should listen to you as you are giving her the best advice around. She should at least appreciate that fact that you are a great friend to her. You are not trying to tell her anything wrong. You just want to steer her in the right direction. Which in my eyes makes you a great friend! Maybe one day, she will listen to you and stop being so stubborn. She needs someone to talk some sense into her. It is great that you are trying to. I hope that you get through to her so that she can get a job. She seems very miserable and she is just trying to isolate everyone out of her life so that she can just feel sorry for herself. It is very sad that she is this way, but you are doing the right thing by sticking by her. I give you credit for that. Maybe soon she will realize that you are a great friend to her and she will start to at least follow your advice before it is too late. Good Luck!

I think your friend is insecure with the way things are going on with your life right now. I suggest that you assess your friendship with her, for how long you've been friends... If there is much history, then try to understand her. If there is not much, then get her out of your system. If she keeps pulling you down and criticizing you, she is not a good friend and not worth of your time.

I'd say if she had a legitimate reason for what she was saying you have some thinking to do. But, if what she is doing is not out of her desire to be a friend to you but rather a desire to probably make herself feel better about herself, then I think you should distance yourself from her. I'm not saying she isn't a true friend, but we are all human and we all make mistakes. We all go through tough times, and we all handle it in our own ways (some are correct and some are incorrect ways), but you can't make excuses for her at your own expense. If she has been this way for a while, and it looks like it will take her longer, babying won't do any good. Give her some space, and whether or not she treats you as a friend in the future really shouldn't be your concern. You've been her friend and been the best you possibly could with the power you had, and now it's her turn to do the rest.

i think jealousy is raising it's ugly head, you be yourself, it seems your doing well that way, if she wants to sit on her duff and do nothing let her, dont let her bring ya down, and if it were me id get rid of her, fast, she had her chance, screw her

Hi blue! It is not appreciable on the part of your friend to be critical of you. She has no business to criticize you. She should first see herself and improve her personality before pointing out any finger towards you. Those who life in glass houses should not throw stones on others, so goes the saying.

She really does not sound like a true friend at all. Even if she is going through some tough times she has no right to treat you like that, especially when you are trying to help her. You should really talk to her and tell her that you don't appreciate that attitude of hers. If that doesn't help then the only thing I can say is that you don't need friends like that.

Hm.. ever thought of possibilities that she might like (read: LOVE) you? Just a thought tough. Because many people show how they really care about someone by criticize them or commenting everything about them. Remember, it just a thought from me :p If you are frustated, just ask her nicely why did she do that. Maybe she had some grudge about you in the past and it affects her until now. Jealousy seems to be the perfect word for this actually. But you better asks her. She is your friend anyway, a friend can always open to each other, right? Good luck. And remember! The first paragraph is just a thought :p Regards.

hi bluehibiscus, she dose not sound like very much of a friend, I understand that she is having a hard time, but bringing you down with her is not going to solve the problem. I think that you should sit down and have a serious talk with your friend and tell her how you feel about her always bringing you down, once she has knows how you feel about this than she can either accept your feelings and start being a better person towards you or if she dose not than her actions should let you know that she is not a true friend and maybe you all need to go your separate ways. On a personal note i had a similar situation and i approached her about a problem i was having and we stopped being friends for a very long time. well people grown up now and we are older now and was able to talk about our immature ways and the hurt and pain and are able to start over. but instead of breaking up the friendship talk to her see were her mid is at and if she's mature enough to respect your friendship or you may take into consideration that she may need emotional help and not sure of how to deal with it in any other way rather than to lash out at you, and she may be a good person, but talk to her and see how she behaves after you talk to her. and hopefully you two can work things out.

Your friend has so many frustrations and she is trying to bring you down, too so that she will not be the only one who appears to have failures. Pity her because she is in that state. You have your own mind about how you should dress and eat, and you have your own standards for your boyfriend. If you believe that nothing is wrong with how you do things and that your choicea are right for you, then, follow your will. You may try to talk to your friend about how you think of her ways because you are her friend. It's up to her to listen and follow your advices. If she does not listen, let her do her own thing and do not allow yourself to be affected by her negativity. You are your own person.