a great woman?
By novelcai
@novelcai (600)
Philippines
December 17, 2009 9:59am CST
my mom is really one of a kind.. i love her so much and well each of us will agree on me that "mothers knows best"... she is good, kind, beautiful, great mom, very loving, im the eldest i have 3 siblings.. we are so lucky for having a mom like her.. but one thing i also want to share with you guys,,, i dont want to be like my mom.in a sense that i dont like to have a life like what my mom has. because i think she is more happy if she didnt got married to my dad. now that ive grown enough i have a courage to ask my mom why he didnt left my dad even from the start she knows that my dad is not a good partner in life.. she just answered me "because i dont want you to experienced a broken family.." but as the years past by i can say that its really not worth it to stay in a relationship which is not fruitful, not happy,and no improvement just for the sake of the childrens.
how bout you guys? what can you say bout this matter?
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hi, novelcai. I can see that you love your mother very much and I am sure that she loves you too. I feel that it is not fruitful for any woman to stay with a man because they want you to have a better life. It may be fine at first but in the end it can cause problems for everyone. Your mom deserves to be happy. She should not force herself to stay with your father if he is not making her happy at all. This reminds me of the relationship with my mother-in-law. She has been married to her husband for over 30 years and he has made her very unhappy. She has no life for herself at all. She stays home most of the time. She is a very lonely woman.
She even looks older for her age, because of all the stress that her husband and children has put her through. I don't want your mom to end up like her at all. You don't have to be like your mom. Motivate her and tell her that if she was to leave your father you would not desert her. Tell her that her happiness means a lot to you. She is just silently killing herself by loving him when she knows that it is not working out. She has choices that she can make. I hope that she makes the choice that will make her happy and not one that she will live to regret later down the line. Take good care of yourself and you mom too. She is going to need your support.
She even looks older for her age, because of all the stress that her husband and children has put her through. I don't want your mom to end up like her at all. You don't have to be like your mom. Motivate her and tell her that if she was to leave your father you would not desert her. Tell her that her happiness means a lot to you. She is just silently killing herself by loving him when she knows that it is not working out. She has choices that she can make. I hope that she makes the choice that will make her happy and not one that she will live to regret later down the line. Take good care of yourself and you mom too. She is going to need your support.@novelcai (600)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
thnks for the advice. they live in the province and i stay in the city because of my work. 3 months ago my mom stayed w/ me for 3 weeks because she told me that she really can stand my fathers attitude. but you know what.. in 3 weeks i know that in each day past she is worrying where my dad going to eat, and so on.. my dad is 15 yrs older to my mom. and my dad treat my mom not as his partner, he look like mom as a person who just a mother of his child. and i cant remember even once if my dad give any single gift to my mom.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Aug 10
True its our mom..she is never paid and she never stops. A real gift to every human!
