too young for fun.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
United States
December 22, 2009 12:52pm CST
If you child decided they wanted to live with their boyfriend would you allow them? I have several friends who think it is ok to let their 15 and 16 year old daughter's live with their boyfriend or vice versa. Thats way too young. There is no way Im letting my child live with her boyfriend when she is too young and still in school. They aren't even emotionally ready at that point for such things. When is too young?
6 responses
@apgh09 (514)
• United States
22 Dec 09
hi, there is no way i would allow my 16 year old son or daughter to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Although I feel that a 16 year old may be mature in some areas playing house is not one of them. I may consider my child having a boyfriend or girlfriend and would allow him or her to the house and they would go on chaperoned dates maybe but living together noway! Now once they are 18 + and a little bit more ready for what the world has to offer I would talk to them about it to see where their head is at.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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22 Dec 09
Also another thing I would consider is how serious the relationship was and whether or not I thought her boyfriend was good for her or not. If they moved in together after a couple of months it would be a disaster if they split up.
@apgh09 (514)
• United States
22 Dec 09
hi yes i agree with you to if they thought that they were really serious i would ask them to wait until they were at least 18 before moving in together at least that would give the young couple more time to get to know each other and see if they really have strong feelings for one another or to find out if it was just a teenage fling. you bring up a good point.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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22 Dec 09
I would explain the reasons why I thought that it was best they moved out after 18 but I doubt that anyone really moves out when they are sixteen unless there are some really big problems at home with their parents.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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22 Dec 09
I have commented on this debate a lot and I still feel the same. You should move in together before you get married as then you will find out whether you are right for each other. Many marriages end in divorce when the couple has not lived with each other before they get married and then the find out that they were not the right person for them.
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
4 Apr 10
For me, I think it would have to depend of the maturity level of the person - age-wise, i would have to say this is too young but I guess it's different for everyone...I was out of home at the age of 16 & living with my then boyfriend...looking back now, he wasn't mature enough to be living out of home & I probably wasn't either but i was more mature than him...I have no regrets though - except who my boyfriend was but that's a completely different story.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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22 Dec 09
I would probably say 18 or 19 would be ok for me, I would help my daughter and her boyfriend to find a place suitable and as long as they were both working I would not really see a problem with it but it would not be right on her birthday that it would be ok but once she had been 18 for a few months and proved she was mature enough.
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I totally agree with you! I made the big mistake of marrying very young and now im middle age and feel my life has been missing something for many years. I know theres probly some young relationships that can work but more times its not a good situations.I think even age 18 is not good. Emotional maturity is a big part of it. People the learn to depend on a relationship at such a young age have issue with learning how to be able to depend on ones self if they ever needed to later in life. Just not a good idea.
@dipankar4bux (2)
• India
22 Dec 09
yes, this is too young age for this kind of relation. I am not allowed at any cost. They are too young to take a decision like this and we need to talk with our child.
