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Hello there. If ever I would come to a situation like yours, I would say it would be difficult for me to let that someone to borrow again my things because that person might lost it again. How could I trust that person again when on the first time he/she borrowed from me, and that thing is considered as important to me, then he would just lost it?

Hello careguarden.. this has happened to me several times. My friends would borrow dvds from me and won't care to return them. I always end up buying the same thing to recover those that i have lost. But usually when they fail to return something, they don't borrow again, lol. Maybe they are ashamed for not returning what they have borrowed. Right now, i am more careful in letting my friends borrow stuff. I list them down so that i can follow these up when they are not returned back and this way they know that i care about my things and will be reminded to return them.

Hi,careguarten.I think if my friends lost something from me,maybe I would forgive him the first time.Because she might just lost it by chance.But if it happened again,I won't let him borrow anything from me,because it means he never treasure my previous things and our friendship.So just give him another chance ,so is your friendship.

I would never allow myself to loan them something again. I already don't like to loan out my things to people. That book sounds very expensive too. I would learn my lesson there.

i will feel the same way, i will not allow her to borrow something from me again. i know we should give second chances, but the problem is we already lost our trust towards that person. maybe we will just wait for the time when our trust towards that person returns.

I have so many of these kind of experiences. And for me, it all depends on their reactions. If my friend would contact me as soon as possible with a very sorry reaction, maybe it wasn't her fault, so I'll give her/him a second chance. But I have friends who didn't even bother to tell me (I'm the one who has to call and ask) and didn't show any regret about losing my stuff, well, they are the ones that I surely will never lend them anything anymore. I would even be cautious with our friendship in the future, because through that experience it is proven that they did not quite care about my feelings.

Haha, you sounded like me back when I told my girlfriend about how my big bro lost my ipod. I can't forget her reaction, she said I had this weird look on my face that she said I was like a pet owner who got his house messed up by his pet, and yet plays with that adorable thing, setting aside the wrecked sofa...or something like that. Going back. After my big bro lost my precious ipod (given to me by my sister), i still let him borrow my laptop, and let him "mess up my house"...Maybe its because his my brother that I let him all the time but, come on, who doesn't commit a mistake like losing something we borrowed. All i'm saying is that people don't have to let one mistake ruin their relationships toward other...it's part of being human, i guess...I remember my boardmate once said, once he let his friends borrows something from him, he does not expect the return of that thing...

Hello careguarden,

I understand what you feel.
Precious things,like personal collection always mean so much for us.
If you were to asked me,i will not allow her to borrow again,simply becoz,she's not responsible enough to be trusted with things that i treasured.
When we borrow something,we must be responsible with it.
It's not an excuse that we've lost it.

Some people doesn't know how to value things that they doesn't belong to them,and i hate this attitude.
When it is a borrowed one...you must take care extra care,becoz it is not yours.

I also had same experience like this...friends borrowing home tools,like hammer,pliers and forgot to return it,and the worst is...they've lost it(gosh!!!!)

Have a good day always

I think anyone that irresponsible should feel ashamed to ask again to borrow. But if they do, then you need to be frank and respectfully decline, quoting "I trusted you once, I cannot do it again". But again I don't think they will ask.I would personally not ask again if I had misplaced a friends borrowed goods. However there are some people who out of the kindness of their heart don't mind and do give the person a second chance. BUT I would not.. guess I'm not so kind..loll!

Definitely the answer is no, Failure to return something you have borrowed just show that you are irresponsible of the thing you have borrowed. It is the duty of the borrower to take good care of the things borrowed, to take good care of it as a father of the family, for it is your duty to return the thing borrowed. Once is enough, she don't know how to value the thing she borrowed therefore if she borrowed again the possibility of losing it again is high, and i dont want that to happen to my things. I felt sorry for her but i wont let her borrow again no matter what. The care of the thing she have borrowed represents how she care our friendship.