Do you keep money secrets from your husband?  

hello katpuchboy,

actually, you remind me of my mom! haha but i don't look at my mom as a bad wife. i know she has the reason as to why she hides some money from my father...before.
she just want to keep something to herself and so that she will have a money in case of there's a need. actually my father is kinda stingy..haha i guess they are hiding from each other but what's funny is that when its really needed, they both have money to use! they will just be surprise to see those money. but i must also say that sometimes it sparks a misunderstanding between them...

but anyway, i can't judge them or you. all of us have our own reasons as to why e do certain things, as long as you are not using the money in bad things, i guess its just fine.
but with me, i don't hide money from my husband, coz we are budgeting together! usually i will be showing him where all the money goes and most of the time i will be asking for some addition from him! hehe
and whenever i have a money of my own, i always wanted to share it with him...even what i earn online, i do share it with him...
i don't know, i just get used to it...

good day!

Well, I was told by mom whose mom had informed her as well is to keep some money to yourself intact in case of rainy or stormy days and to keep it as a secret from their husband. No offense guys! I guess this is better than wives who spend every dime she can get her hands on. Agree?

i dont think its bad, it depends on your purpose of doing it, i wont do it though, i dont want any misunderstanding when it comes to money,

No, you are not a bad wife. You are a normal wife. Normal in today's world is hiding things from each other. Abnormal, or weird, is when you have a totally transparent marriage relationship. Where you share absolutely everything with your spouse, and he with you.

So, no you are not bad.

I will say this though. I would encourage you to become weird, and end the secrets. You will end up with a closer deeper marriage that way, although it will be harder.

But that's your call. :) Best of luck.

Hi..I think that there is all woman who did it.I think to be honest is better but maybe it's not right in every situation.I try to understand about your problem or about many woman who did it because some reason.For me,i have no secret with my husband and I think as partner we can communicate all things and believe each other.

I don't keep money secrets from my husband. In fact, I make sure to tell him everything about the money that has been spent and what it is spent on. I am in charge of most of the bills and so he know I am doing the right thing when it comes to money. We actually don't keep any secrets about anything. We have an open, honest marriage.

Hi Katpuchboy,


Sometimes a girl have to have a little secret and be independent, I did have some money saved up which my hubby did not know but not long ago we were in need of paying some debt off and I have to give my savings to hubby, thats when he knew I had some miney off my own but he didn't mind that at all and has given back the money I have given him, he even give me extra for my own savings as he says it will help if I wanted to go away on a break with my friend.


Tamara

It doesn't matter what the rest of us think - would your husband think you were a bad wife for doing this? If I were your husband then I would be a bit upset if you thought I might stop working hard - that suggests you don't think I care about having nice stuff for the family and making money. It may be different for your husband, but you're treading a very dangerous line by discussing this with us if there is a chance he will see it and be annoyed by it!

I don't keep any money secret from my husband. My money and his are but one. We are both earning and we have never had any money issues within the 25 years of our marriage. I am blessed enough to have a very responsible husband who have been a real good provider. On my part I am doing my best to be just as responsible so that we could keep our finances in good condition.

i guess i should not be joining this discussion as this is a women's secret.

but i want to share some point of views. i agree with almost everyone here that it is not a bad thing to keep money secrets from your husband. i am sure, you do that not for your own personal interest but you still look into consideration the deepest needs of the family, when it comes. that when in some emergency situations, you have something to pick out from the pocket.

it can also be the reason for those family that only one of the spouses are looking for money or has a job. it could be you or the husband.

i, as the husband, looks for money. and not only by having a regular job that i have a regular income. i also look for some extra cash online. my wife remains at home. so as of this time, i am the only one who looks for money.

as a worker, employee, offline, i receive once in a while, extra money as benefits. my wife knows most but not all extra money or benefits that i received or will be getting, she should know. i have to keep it secret from her. for emergency cases. so that i can have something left for me, too.

but the topmost priority for us, is family. i know, it is also your priority. and they are always first in you thoughts.

love you sis.