Lending out your anime DVDs and manga books  

I had to laugh about the screwdriver thing. I remember loaning things out and never getting it back. I'd have to go to the other person's house to retrieve my things and then they act like I'm trying to whats theirs. It really irritates me.

Yeah DVD's will be ruined when you lend it to anyone. And I mean anyone. Human instincts, we dont give a damn to anything we dont own... What ever it is that we lend to somebody else. It will almost always have a 99.9% chance of getting some damage. And all we can do after the damage has been done is (SIGH!)

What Boyetski says is so true. All we can do is sigh and regret letting people borrow our things. It's not so much that I care for it being in pristine and super new condition or anything. I just don't like having one of my books coming back with torn pages hanging out of it and things like that.

I can understand that. I've loaned out DVDs to people before and never got it back. Everytime I would try to get it back the person would make some kind of excuse. Then they'd act really angry when I demand for my things back, which makes me irritated and annoyed.

Don't you find that odd! I think we are the one who have the right to angry, they only have to borrow, without have to pay a penny for it, and we are the one who buy it.

Yes, it is strange. They act all offended and everything. Then they get mad and stop speaking to me for a period of time. Which does not bother me in the least because I honestly don't have to patience to deal with people like that.

Yeah, I've learned my lesson now. I rarely let people borrow my things these days and if I do it's only for a few days at most.

Yeah, you're right about that. My list of trusted people is pretty short these days but I never have to worry about letting them borrow anything.

That's really sad to hear about your sticker book. I would have been mad if I was in your shoes. But I can relate. I remember loaning out some anime DVDs to some friends (they were precious because I just started collecting at the time and they were the first ones I owned) and it took months to get it back. Apparently they loaned it out to someone else who lived out of town without letting me know beforehand. I had to threaten them a bit before they brought it back and when they did three of the DVDs were cracked and unwatchable. I was afraid to even touch them. That got me so mad and I flat out told them that they could never borrow any of my things again.

That schoolbook bit is another thing too. I recall letting someone use one of my books and they really damaged it by writing in it, highlighting and even ripping some pages. It was so bad that I couldn't even sell it back to the school bookstore after the semester was over. So, I ended making the person who borrowed it buy that book from me instead.

And don't worry, you're not alone at all. There's nothing wrong with being a bit possessive about your things especially if you paid really good money for it.

Sorry to hear about your DVDs, especially that they're the first ones you collected (What a coincidence. Why is it always the first stuff, the most precious of all? ) Not only did they not take care of it, they even lent it to others. I dislike that most of all when the borrower freely lends something he borrowed.

Whoa, that person who borrowed your book was really something. I couldn't stand the underlines but moreover, highligthing and ripped pages. It's really about respect for another's belongings and that person didn't seem to care. Good thing you made that person buy the book. Serves that person right!

Thanks for this topic. The next time anyone would try to borrow, I've got lots more reasons why I shouldn't lend my stuff. Yeah, we sure do pay good money for our collection and its condition should be kept in good state. Only those worthy can lay their hands on them, lol. Wow, thank you for choosing mine as the best response. Have a great day!

Haha...sure, no problem.

It's always nice to rant about something and have someone understand what I'm going off about. These days I don't even bother to come up with excuses why I don't let people borrow anything. I just flat out tell it like it is. It's a bit harsh but it keeps my things in good condition.

I try not to think about worst case scenarios, that just makes me fret more but I still do it sometimes. There have been one or two times when I've never gotten my things back, I ended up moving so I basically cut my losses. Three years is a long time, you might have to go and 'borrow' it back or something.

I see, glad that you have found a solution to minimize your losses. Actually I would stay charging people if they see it as something of a must to lend them, or maybe, an eye for an eye, borrow something from them.

Sometimes, they need to be taught a lesson before they knew that they should be grateful to you for lending your precious collection to them.

As for the three years loaned set, because I already had in mind that the worse case scenario could happen, so I just forget about it since I know he really likes that the show.

One of these days I should try it. Borrow something and never bother to return it until the person comes looking for it. I'd like to see the reaction of the person. That would be interesting. Hmm...I have to say that you took that 3 year thing well, I'd probably forget about it too if I was in that situation. Just get it over with and go buy a new copy, that's what I'd do.

Ouch...that's pretty bad. Did you at least ask him to pay you or at least buy you a new copy of that film? That's what I would have done. There's no way that disc was salvageable after all. And you have a point there, I'd never let a person borrow anything else from me if that's how they'd treat my stuff. It's almost unforgivable.

So true, they are a bit cheaper now than years ago but they are still up there. I usually have stipulations when I lend mine out. For example they have to return it within a certain amount of time. I had to learn that one the hard way. I lent some out to some friends and never got it back until months later. The only reason I got them back in the first place was because I demanded them back. After that I decided to have a set time limit depending on what the person is borrowing.