Taken advantage of

I've had things stolen from me, never been able to prove it or get the things back. As far as rumors going around about me, not that I know of. My real friends wouldn't believe them anyway, and I don't much care about anybody else.

Hii... I have been helpful to people when I was capable of... And I have experienced what you're going through. Although I didn't know about it, then... Now, I get to hear about those things that were said behind my back by those whom I had been helping... Had I known it that time, it is hard to say what it would led to.. Because I dislike such things and had power to do anything in those days... fortunately for them, I knew about it pretty late... I know what you're feeling at present.. As your friend, I would suggest you to stop helping them, confront them with their misdeeds (if it is not going to affect you) and simply forget about it..Oh yeah, and tell them to repay your help, asap... That's how they should be treated... I am sorry, if I sound extremist LOL... But Miss, I am human not a saint... :) Have a good time... Hope to hear something better when I log in next time.. Good day!

Sorry to read that someone has wronged you. here's a answer to your question No I've never been in a situation where someone I knew or know had spread false rumors about me, and hopfully I'll never have to experience that sort of thing because my life is full of enough hardships at the moment and I dont need anymore. But I must say that if this person is treating you this way after you've only tried to help them, then maybe this person shouldn't be in your life, because obviously this person doesn't fully understand or appreciate what you've tried to do for them or they just dont care. of course I can only base my response on what you've posted and as I said I haven't experienced this kind of thing but I have experienced and been around other types of miss treatment, and I know what its like to help someone and later realize that the person I helped really only wanted to take advantage of me and my family, so usually once I find out that the persons intentions are not good I let them go, meaning I no longer associate with that person unless an apology is made, I mean a real sincere apology but if not I just stop hanging out with them because I want to avoid as much real drama as posible.

Yes, I have been in this situation before and probably will be again. It hurts, and likely you are shocked, very hurt, and in disbelief this person could do such a thing. I would definitely confront this person in some way where you can talk privately. Also, take comfort in knowing that those who twist your help around will some day go through the same fate. About a year ago, I helped out two sets of people financially. The first was my sister who needed cash to pay off some bills as she was having a hard time working due to a medical condition. The second was the mother of a friend who needed transportation. I put two and two together and purchased my sister's car she was selling and handed it over to my friend's mother. We made the agreement on a payment plan, which resulted in a large screen colored TV. I never expected my sister to pay me back, because why twice the payment? And why when she helped me herself so many times before? However, I really needed the TV because my younger sister was buying it from me for the same price as the car and I needed the money badly as I became jobless. For weeks and months my friend's mother came up with excuses as to why she couldn't give me the TV. I expanded the months to give more time, but eventually she agreed on a date and I went to pick it up. And would you believe she was angry about it? She was very angry and said some things to me that I won't repeat on here. I found out later she was on medication that made her react that way because the next day she was rather embarrassed about her behavior. I have forgiven her, but have not forgotten about it. And yet, it wasn't long after this, she gave her cash to someone she trusted to go down and pay her bill. Instead, this person used her cash to purchase food for themselves, and at the time did not pay her back the money they took. To this day I still don't know if they ever did, but I believe it was a hard earned lesson for her. Also, I believe people spread rumors to make it seem as if they are stronger and don't really need help, when in fact they are only fooling themselves. But you know the truth, right? You know the rumors are not true and there will come a time people will see that truth as well. Just because she/he closed the door on you, doesn't mean you can't open a window.

Well my grandaunt use to blame me of things I never did. All I do is to simply ignore her for there's no point arguing with an old woman. Instead, I help her with household chores so that she won't have to harbor any feelings of irritation at me.

Confront this person and ask,and go from there depending on the answer.

I'm sorry to hear you are in this situation, but I have also been in this situation where I tried to help out a friend. In return she moved into my home, never paid me a penny towards rent or upkeep, ate all the food in the fridge, borrowed my clothes and when I finally realised she was taking me for a mug, she left and took a lot of my stuff with her. I challenged her about it and she tried to insinuate I had taken HER things. The only thing I could think of doing was to complete disown her and ignore her. All my friends realise what she was up to and they ignored her too

It never happen to me yet, i think you should talk to them, directly ask them why there're saying so bad rumors about you while you help them. They must be stupid guys to hurt someone so nice like you! It is rare to see nice people and instead of keep you well like a good friend, there are unkind toward you, so unfair! o

No not like this my friend but it is difficult to face like this but this is the time where you want to make your mind hard and you should win my friend dont worry too much about this left it out