my son doesn't want to share his toys!!!  

So you mean this may go on for quite some time? :(
I really fear that because it's giving me a hard time breaking them up and of course the little one cries out loudly whenever this happens.

I would try having a friend for her to play with when he is having his friends over to play with. Crying is not a bad thing , they eventually will figure out that does not work if you can steer her in a different direction. She respond off of your response on the matter. I would redirect her attention to something else.

That's what I try to do as remedy actually just to prevent them from hating each other. lol
But I was kind'a hoping things will return to how they used to be when she was younger and my son seemed to love playing with her and they shared all the toys together. :)

It'll pass with time. My disdain for my brother stems from me getting body slammed, at random, over a period of 7 plus years. I'm just biding my time, looking for the perfect opportunity to retaliate. unless he stops gaining eight, I may have to stop lifting barbells to make sure I'm able to get revenge.

Thanks for sharing that really.
I didn't have the chance to experience this because my sister is only 2 years younger than me and of course, since we were both girls, we used to share dolls and everything.
Maybe I should talk to him heart-to-heart.
I really have this tendency sometimes to scold him because I always say he is older and should be more considerate. :(
Now I'm understanding him better... Thanks!!!

Yeah i know, we all do, at times, we have tendency to forget that they need/want us too, because we assume they can do things for themselves and we tell ourselves they are self -sufficient. I have heard it countless of time that i must love the baby more because i spend more time with her. They need attention too. actions always speak louder than words and it does not cost anything but you listening to them and being with them. It is more of a gift than any toy will bring. Our mini dates meant the world to them on a one on one basis. hard on me though

It will be hard at first but it will get better, he needs your attention as well, sometimes negative attention is better than not attention to them when they are vying for affection. They grow up so fast and you wonder where the years went to.

anyway take , it will be fine.

They have separate toys actually because they are of different gender.
I just don't understand also why my little girl also wants to play with the toy soldiers and boy stuff. The more he doesn't want to lend her, the more she insists!

Because kids are like that. The more you forbid them of something, the more they're gonna get interested on that something. :)

Actually, she does have her own dolls and stuff toys to play with but she still wants to play with her older brother's toys. Maybe it's inviting for her to see that her brother is enjoying playing with those toy soldiers and the likes. I thinks she's still too young to be scolded so I always talk to my son instead to extend his patience for his younger sister but it seems as if it's not working for both of them. My son still gets irritated with her and I rush to them when I hear them both shouting because of toys. Urrrghhh!
(ooops, and sorry for the late reply, just got home from work.)

Guess I'll do another talking to him yes and one that is more intimate. He actually is sweet with her except when she starts messing with his toys...
Thanks for your comment. :)

You are indeed blessed to have cooperative children.
I'm beginning to worry already because I'm still due to have another baby this June so there will be three of them then and it can be such a rumble!
But just the same, 'am still very proud and happy having them. Yes, children are God's gifts to parents. :)

Oh I'm so glad to hear that from you. :)
Actually except from this thing, I don't really have much worries about his attitude since he is also quite a good kid. My officemates tell me he is very disciplined especially when I bring him along on gatherings or at the office.
It bothers me only that he is acting this way towards his little sister when I was expecting him to be the first to take care of her when she needs help.
Maybe this is just part of their kid's adjustments in life. :)
Thanks for the encouragement Jotomy. God bless you and your kid too.

thank you