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myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life 2 years ago

Well... I am married with 2 kids. Touch wood, we are a happy family. I see so many single eligible people around. They are happy being single and independent. Many of my close friends who coudn't settle at the right age are no more interested. Has earning capacity made them like this? or fear of losing one's independence is making them not to enter into any relationaship? Friends do express your thoughts......

 

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1. myLot reputation of 98/100. se7enthbird (4975)   ranked 177 out of 32,944 in life   2 years ago

we are five siblings in our family, i am the first born but the last one who got married. for me seeing them with their married life, i was not satisfied with it. so i planned not to rush and take my life one step at a time. i do everything alone when they were all married already. watch movie alone, go up mountain climbing alone and other stuff as well. now i am married for 7 years and we have a four year old son. my wife is a perfectly fit person for me. of course we also have our own ups and downs but we solve it with holding hands. i was not afraid to loss my identity for every person has its own identity. you just need someone who can see pass through those imperfections. welcome to the wonderful world of mylor dur. good luck


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

Very true, marraige teaches us lots of things in life. We learn to adjust, sacrifice and learn what is life finally. God created us to reproduce and form families.

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2. myLot reputation of 73/100. sridarshika (3340)   ranked 804 out of 32,944 in life   2 years ago

hi durga, welcome to mylot. Me too married with 2 kids. But i prefer, single is better than married, because while we are in this stage we don't have much responsibilities, we can enjoy our life easily and comfortably with our friends as well as relatives like cousins. After marriage you have more responsibilities to take care about your huband/wife, if you had child, you must take care of them also, all this process are more difficult to handle. So i prefer single state is best than a married state. Happy lotting.


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

Being single has its own advantages ofcourse, but for how long is the question? At some time we will yearn to have a family.


myLot reputation of 84/100. homeshoppers (4687)   ranked 1,388 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

@sridarshika, being single is just temporary and yes your right we can do a lot of things being single as our income is just ours alone and our time is just ours alone, its just good while we are still young and still have a lot of energy to do a lot of things, but we also have to accept the fact that we also need someone to share with in our life as we cant be young forever, its alright to have fun while were still young thats why we dont need to rush to get into marriage, though once the time that we already become old and everyone is already married and you left alone what will you think will you feel. maybe by then you will realize that no money can buy to have someone to stay beside you. its so nice to sleep while you have someone you love to talk with, and so nice to wake up to see the face of your wife and kids to hear them laughing will make your life complete as even though your old already, you know that no matter what happened you will never be alone.


myLot reputation of 73/100. sridarshika (3340)   ranked 804 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

ya, i agree with you. But i want to be free and out of stress. so i like single state, it's my view and my desire only. Although i like to be single, but i got married and having two sons, due to my fate. For me, single is better..

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3. myLot reputation of 84/100. frontvisions101 (9932)   ranked 1,624 out of 32,944 in life   2 years ago

Well, in my opinion, you don't exactly lose your independence when you get married. You just do things with someone else. For me, it's a different kind of independence compared to being alone.


myLot reputation of 84/100. homeshoppers (4687)   ranked 1,388 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

yes your right, its not because your already married it means that you will going to loss your independence, in fact life is so nice upon seeing your wife nor husband and kids in the morning before you go to work, you can also go out with friends or go somewhere else whenever you want as it depends to you though of course you will also need to consider that theres someone waiting for you.


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

Yes both of you r right. I get my own space and independence. I do go out with my friends and be myself. the same is with my husband too.........

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4. myLot reputation of 84/100. homeshoppers (4687)   ranked 1,388 out of 32,944 in life   2 years ago

it depends to you of what you think that can make you happy, but once you get older im sure you will be needing someone else with you to share with everything as you cant live alone for the rest of your life, you might be happy nor contented being single but just for now while you still young. life is still nice to ge told with someone else to see yourself with him nor her and to see your kids growing, it makes your life fulfilled.


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

Very true, Many don't understand this fact. they think marraige is a burden and married life is like a jail. I feel if both the partners understandes each other and give space there shouldn't be a problem. As one grows old, needs one for comfort and companionship.


myLot reputation of 84/100. homeshoppers (4687)   ranked 1,388 out of 32,944 in life  2 years ago

yes i heard that most guys complaint about that things as they thought that once they got married their whole life will be just for his wife and kids and work alone, for infact he can also make his own world by still going out with his friends though as i said he must also consider that theres someone waiting for him. besides independent being single is just temporary as they tend to have more fun without thinking of anything as their money is just for them alone, but somehow when they are old enough and they are still single and alone when they go to bed and sleep, only then they will realized that no money can buy the happiness with those whose who can stay beside you where you can have a little chit chat before going to sleep and someone to hug with.

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5. myLot reputation of 98/100. maximax8 (17649)   ranked 161 out of 32,944 in life   2 years ago

I am divorced and my marriage lasted for just six years. I have three children. I believe that the single life can be very much more enjoyable than a miserable marriage. When single a person can be independent. If married a couple don't seem to get on well all the time. I think that there are advantages and disadvantages of being with a particular person. I don't wish to get married a second time. I am happy to stay single for the rest of my life.


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  1 year ago

Well, u have had a bitter experience. may be by experience you can say single life is much more enjoyable, and u do have ur children's responsibilities. that will make ur life full.

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6. myLot reputation of 90/100. Celestenicole (4523)   1 year ago

I guess people that aren't married and that are still single are scared to commite or look for the right person cause they won't be liked for who they are. Its scarying going out in the world and going through all the people to just find the one you are happy with. For some people its easy we just know when we meet the person and others have to sit through the hours of getting to know someone before falling in love. They might not want a relationship cause of personal reason or for whatever reason they have. But I think most of the time its cause they might end up alone.


myLot reputation of 92/100. durgabala (643)   ranked 8,981 out of 32,944 in life  1 year ago

yes u r right. In India people never fear of commitment, but today most of the people are scared to losing their independence. I can also state that, the younger generations that is people in their early 20s are keen to get married early, they find their match during their final year itself. it is a good sign. singles are those who are in their 30s and mid 30s.


myLot reputation of 90/100. Celestenicole (4523)  1 year ago

Not everyone will find someone in there 20's during going to college not going to college and stuff. Some times it just takes longer to fine the right person to be with and sometimes when you find the right person they aren't really the best person for you at all so you end up being signle latter one in life. Its really all about just getting there and learning about what you like and don't like in a person.

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