How do you cop everyday? How do you get through the entire day?
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
United States
June 7, 2010 2:10pm CST
Hello myLotting world. I have been pondering on these questions for six months now. I was consecutive employed for 25 years; of which 19 were with the same company. Never in my wildest dreams, and believe me I have had some really awful lived moments, would I ever think I would be in this predicament. Six months ago, I became unemplooyed for the first time in my life and I thought it was the end of the world. Each day I wondered if it is the last, as when you have creditors hollaring, a home you have owned for 19 years and your credibility at stake, one can't stop to wonder how to make it through that particular day let alone the next? I have read many discussions here of very similar attributes, but I have yet to obtain the real answer to; How do you cope daily? I know the generic responses is to take it day by day, however what gives you the hope that the next day will be better? I have not had a good night sleep in the entire six months, and have gone with 2 straight weeks without any sleep at all. While the entire world goes on with out you, how do you get through your day?
I have ventured out as so many have into the internet projects and ideas with hopes to create some form of financial generating revenue, but find that I could be at it for 20 hours straight, weeks at a time and still be in the same precidament or shall I say back to equate at square one. I realize that it is called persistance, Lord knows I was geniunly filled with it; as i drank, ate, slept and breath my job on a daily basis. However, how do you get through the entire day, knowing that your efforts were not worthwhile and or appreciated? Having had my entire world shut down, in a society that feels that I am not worthy or well overqualified for even the smallest job. My biggest fear is that how much is just too much before you just can't cope anymore?
Therefore, myLotters my main intentions is to find out how we as caring, strong, hardworking, people deal with everything at hand and be able to cope, and get through each day? How do you deal with acquaintances not understanding that you just can't do the things you use to do before?I would appreciate some constructive feedback as I have many of friends, or at least I bleived so, that would never understand the pain, dissapointment and depressive moments, people like me are currently under?
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
19 Oct 11
Well my friend, here it is about a yr. after you started this discussion and even though you have had to give up a few things and are still without work, you have survived and learned to become a better person because of this. Too many times we often take life and things for granted and then something happens and we learn just how strong we really are.
Look at all I am going thru. Even though I have a job, and a home things are tight and there are struggles. We even had to find a renter to help us get thru this. Nut thru it all we have learned how strong we really are, and God is in control. Praying for better things for you always.
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@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Oh Tina I am ever so glad to be a member here especially shortly after I began my offline issues. Having met so many of you wonderful people has allowed me to cope with my offline issues.
You are right as I have strengthened my beliefs and complete re-affirmed that nothing ends on our time but only on Gods. As always Tina you are in my daily prayers and am very proud to have been able to share your life experiences as well. 
There will be a day both of us will look back and say we did it and so grateful for the added strength. 
There will be a day both of us will look back and say we did it and so grateful for the added strength. 
@sergeantrom (5721)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Have you tried employment agencies? I would sign up with at least three of them. This would allow you flexibility to interview for permanent jobs while gaining income to pay bills. There are different types of temp agencies depending on your background. People seem to think all you can get are "clerical" jobs. They have law, medical, office, manual labor and lots more. Whatever field you were in, I would try the competition. Loyalty like yours has got to peak others interest. The biggest fear for employers hiring over qualified people is that they will leave soon thereby costing them money. If you are honest with prospective employers and perhaps guarantee them a period of time, they would be willing to take a chance. You can even draw up a mini time contract. Who knows, you might end up staying longer. One thing my mom told me. Its easier to find a job when you already have a job. So go get some type of job, any job and everything will start falling into place. Some money is better than no money. No matter what, keep your head up.
@sergeantrom (5721)
• United States
10 Jun 10
I am going to send you some links of legit work at home companies. Basically customer service and typing jobs. A lot of them want you to get phone equipment but they are real jobs, not those pay for membership sites. Let me know how it goes.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Oh gosh yes! I have signed up with every imaginable agency in Chicago there is. This unemployment period happened to come at the wrong time for anyone seeking unemployment. Yes your mother was correct, it is easier to get a job when you have one as employers tend to think something is wrong with you for not currently having one. Let's face it there are at least 100 applicants to every single position. Therefore, if an interviewee simply feels a discrepancy the applicant does not have a chance, even to get a phone call. Believe me I have tried everything and anything and naturally will continue. It is just too difficult not to break down daily with all the stress. Thanks for responding.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
First of all, I have to say you are very loyal to your company that u worked for it so many years!
For me, I m always employed and unemployed. Maybe its my attitude that I like to rest after 3 months fighting in a job and look for another interesting one ahead.
My suggestion is that you can always look for another job bcause I think you have experience in dealing with people and work. Or maybe if you feel you need a change or rest, I suggest you to work online.
I know it is hard to went through the day thinking of the house installments and other financial problem as well.
What I think is that you need to relax and let it come naturally, at the end if you don't have money you still have a family. Are you married and your spouse supporting you at the moment?
I believe that everyday you should work on something you like that is also becoming your hobby and it also brings money. I am not suggesting you work as an insurance agent or telemarketing but you can build your own business online from the money you save in the bank. You must also get some sleep at least from beginning 1-2, then 3-4, then 5-6 hours to get sufficient energy. As your problem is the same as mine except I m single and not too much financial burden only a car and internet bills, I suggest you to exercise in the evening and morning by taking a walk and talk to your neighbourhood sharing some talks. YOu will feel better and eat right. If you really can't close ur eyes, why don't you take some sleeping pills not too often and talk to ur spouse as I am not expecting you to carrying this all alone.
If you have any problem, you can always PM me, I may be your listener and we can exchange some thoughts and looks on life.
As a depressioner recovered almost completely, I really understand what u r talking about and you need help soonest possible to avoid illness that may come by the form of obesity and depression. Think optimistic like u did before, ok?
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Yes, I was and am a very loyal person. Oh Gosh, look for another job, I have spent well over 15 - 20 hours a day looking for another job. In the beginning I naturally was out there looking for an equal job, and well the economy has proven that there is no such animal anymore. So I began to look for something, anything that will even at least provide me with food. That hasn't worked out so easily either, cause you see it use to be that a person was considered very competitive and loyal to a company when that person chose to stay with the company for a lengthy amount of time. Now companies have to wonder why a person like me with all my experience and people skills I am out of a job. We are also living a time where there are at least hundreds up against the one particular job we apply for and well when you do not have a job the prospective employer normally does not spend to much time on trying to feel you out as an newcomer let alone as a person. I will take your advise about trying to develop a hobby although right now, I have to spend as much time as I can figuring out how I am going to eat the next day. No I am not married, and unfortunately am one of those statistics that does not have much family. Which is why I was asking how does a person cope on daily basis, when so many odds are against them. I use to be a very strong wilded person, and find myslef to be weaker than a the smallest pea. I can't help but to wonder what the next day will be like since the day of and the day before were no better.
Thank you, the walking part I will try.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
8 Jun 10
Hi hardworkinggurl! Oh my! I do so understand where you are coming
from! I have been there too many times! And I do know how it
feels when your good friends and family just don't understand!
You spend hours online, go to interviews, make phone calls, get
phone calls and nothing seems to pan out! I have done this so
many times! It is so stressful and it will break your spirit as
time goes by! I have been out of work longer than you so I do
know how it feels and how it feels when no one around you believes
or understands what you are going through! I have worked all
my life, over 47 years and I had to keep explaing myself and
trying to prove myself over and over again because everyone
around me kept questioning me over and over again! It is a
very difficult position to be in! Unfortunately for me I finally
gave up because I became really ill. I just hope that you hang
in there and find something. You are younger than I am and
healthier so you should be able to find something sooner or later!
Just don't listen to the negative people! Just turn them off and
you will be fine!
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
8 Jun 10
Thank you Opal for your kind words. I am afraid that this has really torn my spirits to shred. I am no longer the bubbly, happy very outgoing person I have always been. I am afraid that I feel so cornered I can no longer longer see, hear or feel past a second. It is so unbelievable that I have soooo many so called friends. Always had to make lot's of friends as I am very limited when it comes to family. Well, during this time I have not even one person ring me to see how I am doing. I suppose that is the least of my issues. I just feel that my efforts are being wasted daily, and find there is no hope to carry on my quest for survival. Daily I look at my surrounding and wonder how I could possibly be in this predicament and it scares the beegeezies out of me. I am loyal to God and understand that things will not change on my terms, if not on his terms. For some odd reason I suppose to go through this and well maybe someday, hopefully I won't be so far gone, that I can consider it all a bad dream. I have turned off the negative people, but I am afraid I have sheltered my self from the world in order to do that and it is driving me insane.
Thanks Opal I really appreciate your kinds words.
