June 19th 2010

Hi CandyRayne. As vonmac told, just you wait till the kids come. All we seem to do is clean, clean and clean. Sometimes I am dusting, cleaning and cooking in my dreams! Don't postpone your cleaning work. Clean up immediately after you are done cooking. Otherwise, you would never be able to do it later. Take small breaks inbetween. Like, say for about 3 to 5 minutes every hour or so? Keep sipping something cool or hot so that you have the strength to do all the work. I do it all the time to keep myself from getting overworked and bored. Gives me the strength to carry on with whatever I was doing. Those 5 minutes can be utilised for this. You will feel much better if you do your work while listening to music. And do the major work first. Do all the smaller ones later when you have finished with everything else. Just have minimum number of articles in your house. If you have lots of stuff, cleaning will become very very difficult. I have a small daughter and her things are piled up in her room and I find it very difficult to clean them or even pick them up after she is done playing. So just keep only things which you use. Throw or dispose the unnecessary ones. Hope this helps.

What kind of work does your husband do? Do you have any intentions on ever getting a job yourself? The best course of action is to find a way to split household duties. Don't let your husband become dependent and complacent. Give him some chores that are realistic for him to do after work or on the weekends. It will lighten your load and even out your relationship.

Congrats! Okay, you need to take rests through out the day. I'm a stay at home dad and I make sure I get plenty of rest or my kids will suffer because I'm not 100%. You don't have to be superwoman and don't show your cape too early or everybody will think you are! Plan your meals, if you're a planner, and always be flexible. If you cook a great meal and he enjoys it be happy that you can take care of your man. He will show you appreciation too. One room at a time, if you try to clean the whole house at once you'll never get it done.

Hi! I was married in March 2010 so I can understand what you're feeling; the need to be perfect. First thing you need to do is take a deep breath. Here are some suggestions: instead of doing an all-out blitz of cleaning or whatever the project is, break it down. For example, do laundry and vaccuuming on one day and something else the next. For me, if you break down the priorities to a few things a day, it doesn't seem so overwhelming and you may not feel as exhausted. Another benefit, you'll be more awake for your husband. :-) I'm not saying it'll always work out like this and there will be some days when you do have to get a lot done. If that's the case, plan ahead. If you have 6 errands to do in one day and there is no choice in putting them off to another day, get coupons together, get some music, and take yourself out to lunch. Perhaps get some girlfriends to go with you? Make it fun! There is always a way to solve a problem. May not be what you prefer or what you're used to but be happy with what you do accomplish, not what you were not able to get to. All it is is realistic planning. Best of luck!