I said "No" to my niece and it shocked her

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Like me ,my 22 yr old niece is a smoker ( which yes I am against and have given her lectures )but a big difference is she is 4 months pregnant. Returning to my parents house after a ultra sound she reached for my cigarettes that was laying on the table, ( I normally do not leave laying out ) and I slapped her hand ( lighty ) and said " I dont' think so " . Her mouth dropped then she said " Your kidding..right Aunt Kerri ". I proceeded to tell her that I understood her wanting one but I was not going to provide her with cigarettes when she was pregnant. And of course I got thrown in my face that I smoked while pregnant with my two girls, and they turned out to be really healthy kids ( for the most part ) Yes, I know I had not set a good example at all and all I could tell her was it still did not make it right and I would have no part of it. She got aggravated about it but bit her lip and went on. Although I know what I did was the right thing to do but at that moment it felt like the Aunt that let her down when no one else in the family could even come close to understanding since no one else smokes. A aunt is suppose to be the one you can turn to when your mother cant be there or does not understand. So I am thinking "Aunt's" has a big role to uphold and never had this issue crossed my mind until that afternoon. ps. that night my sister called me thanking me for not giving her one and told me that I shocked her daughter..she couldn't believe her Aunt Kerri would not give her a cigarette..her Aunt Kerri, the one that smokes !