i told them . . .
@SIMPLYD (90717)
Philippines
February 25, 2011 4:45am CST
My husband and I decided that we keep our daughter’s having a boyfriend a secret between the 3 of us. We plan to tell them when she gets to graduate in College which will be comes 15th of April this year.
But since my sister-in-law came from Australia for a vacation, I decided to tell them all. So I did, while we we’re all having dinner.
When I told them that, my sister-in-law exclaimed “ just as I thought, because she’s already of age!” and we laughed .
My parents in-law though, was a bit shaken, because their dear grand daughter is already a lady and have a boyfriend. All they can say is “why didn’t she tell us when she came last Christmas vacation?” So, I told them our daughter got shy.
At least, now they already knew. Whew!
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6 responses
@housechaos7 (609)
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25 Feb 11
Its so hard when you know family members may react in a negative way at least its out in the open now and people will have to accept it
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
I was expecting them to react negatively, but then they know the futility of it and they realized that our daughter is now a lady, so they just have to be happy about it.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
My daughter took a while in telling us and thru text only because she was scared that we will get angry, because we keep telling her to graduate first. Maybe her conscience cannot take it that she will not tell us about it, so even if she's still in 3rd yr. college she told us.
i admire her for being honest. 
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
True. Personally when I was younger, I make it a point that I am really serious about the relationship and that the guy is worth to be introduced to the whole family before I announce the relationship to them. I dont want to give them heartbreaks that's why
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Yes, I admire her honesty too.
When I was still young, I don't want to tell my parents about my relationships because I thought that they wont understand, but it is best that we keep an open relationship to our parents. In turn, parents should be open to their kids as well.
When I was still young, I don't want to tell my parents about my relationships because I thought that they wont understand, but it is best that we keep an open relationship to our parents. In turn, parents should be open to their kids as well.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
26 Feb 11
Well, this is interesting. And personally I would think anyone would be Happy if the other parents like your daughter, and know her, then why not let them know there is more than a friendship there. Maybe you did not want your daughter to feel pressured but personally you did a great service in not hiding everything for sure. Hey if you let them be and decide for themselves only the Best should continue to happen for them, even if a future does not always come up as meant to be.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
We, parents will be introduced to one another, comes April , on their graduation day as her boyfriend told me. They are in the far away city where they study . My daughter has been introduced to the boyfriend's parents and they like my daughter. They even requested her to come to the hospital when the boyfriend got sick.
I look forward to meeting them.
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Hi. SIMPLYD. It does feel really good when you can get something that is bothering you off of your chest. It feels really good when you can do this. It is also a relief that your secret turned out less shameful that you thought it would have to. It is nothing wrong with your daughter having a boyfriend. This is quite normal.
It is nothing wrong with your daughter having a boyfriend. This is quite normal.@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
Yes, it is normal for her to have a boyfriend, but it was our request that she can have a boyfriend if she has graduated from College.
But you can't control that she falls in love a year before graduation, so we have to keep it a secret yet. However, it's hard to keep something that should be out in the open so i did it.
At least they know now and it's not a big issue after all. 
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
hello SIM,
Wow,i can't imagine myself announcing my daughter having a boyfriend (but i am sure that would be mixed emotions)
My daughter is already 17 yrs old and a 1st yr college,and as of now doesn't have any plans of having a boyfriend,but got crushes and some guys whispering in thin air.
I just wish my daughter won't get involved with serious relationship right now.
I can see her enjoying her studies much which is really her passion.
HAPPY GRADUATION to your daughter in advance and CONGRATULATIONS!
@juniorstringbean08 (455)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
that's okay if i were the one whom you will have told that secret. but of course conditions should always be settled between the girl and the guy in order to prevent serious problems to occur. it's very essential to talk to your child about things regarding handling a proper relationship of her age.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I am glad that my daughter is already mature enough for the relationship.
She would always tell me stories about them. She would sometimes joke that they were already separated, because she knows that i like her boyfriend for her already. She laughs when i seemed to get annoyed when she jokes me that.
She laughs when i seemed to get annoyed when she jokes me that. 