What The F?????

United States
April 19, 2011 12:39pm CST
My husband took me to work last Friday and he said tell your f'n boss you will be here at 7 on Monday and this is the last day I use this car because we are down to one car and he had asked me to quit until we could get another car, but I didn't so because of his attitude I did not go to work and was looking elsewhere and I got a call today rrom an old boss and was supposed to start tomorrow but it is in a bad neighborhood and I called him and told him and a couple of hours passed and he called me just a minute ago and asked me where I was I said at home, and he said I don't want you working there because if you do I will take my things and leave it is a call center, I told him calmly if you don't want me to work there I won't go and he just started yelling I am in a bad mood I am tired of working all the time and my teeth hurt problems here problems there, w.t.f.? Nothing was wrong when he left this morning, I made him lunch, and coffee and went and put gas in the car for him? I don;t get it? What do you think?
1 response
hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hi jahernandezrivas Sounds like he was completely stressed out and you were the first persona he found the opportunity to take it out on. So sorry, to hear this. You handled it great because has you yelled back it would have risen the situation to higher level. Take it easy and allow him to cool down and calmly explain later that you understand him having stress and a bad day but that you do not appreciate being the stress reliever. Hope things are better in the afternoon for the both of you.
jahernandezrivas
@jahernandezrivas (11287)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Thanks and I don't want him to stressed like that I feel like telling him if he is not happy here then go on as hard as it would be but I just don't get it I know he has had pain in his teeth for a long time and we can't afford to go to the dentist and at first he was so happy when he got the job he is at now all of the sudden he hates it it seems like anyway, I don't know what he means by problems here because I can't think of any? He just wants a job to pay him what he is worth but you have to start somewhere it doesn't work that way. He has over 10 years experience and they told him they would give him more $ but I don't know if they did maybe not the way he was acting and I have not been to my job in2 days because of how he acted Friday,. then this morning I asked him what he wanted me to do he told me you make the desicion and he said it is not a problem for me to take you the problem is you don't like driving with me and I don't like driving with you so I called in! again, and just said my car was not ready yet, Should I call him a little later and see if he has calmed down?
hardworkinggurl
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
19 Apr 11
If you have called him during the day in the past for whichever reasons then I don't see why not. Probably best, although he may not be in a good mood then either but one thing for sure he may re-think about things on the drive home and remember you being so nice to have called. Just saying that maybe the call later may not be so favorable because he may still be in pain and stress but I think the drive him will allow him to remember how sweet and nice of a wife he has. I know it would be easy to say forget him, he is going to behave this way well, in my opinion by you asking tells me you love and care for him very much. Which goes along with the compromising, therefore go for it sweetie and I do wish you all the best.
jahernandezrivas
@jahernandezrivas (11287)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Thanks I just don't know what his problem is I love him nut he seems so unhappy lately about everything, Thanks for your support I apprieciate it oops don't know how to spell that word L.O.L. Everything seemed to be fine this morning, I will call him in a couple of hours and see how he is. hope he is better by then! Thanks.