to whom do you prefer to live with? to a lover? or to the one you love?
By jdex_143
@jdex_143 (1093)
Philippines
July 8, 2011 3:30am CST
A friend of mine got me puzzled up when she asked me my opinion on who would I choose. A guy I love and the guy also loves me but isn't financially stable or a guy who loves me and is financially stable but I don't have any feelings for him. I came up with the decision that I would rather choose a guy who is financially stable. Anyway, love can be learned in time.
I'd like to know your choice.
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4 responses
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Jul 11
What you have decided is a rational decision, but it is not fair I think. It is called materialism and it will turn against you sometime. Maybe this is not what you are wanting to hear, but I think I am right.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
9 Jul 11
I have read somewhere regarding difficult situations, that whenever you don't know which option is better, just listen to you heart, because that will be the option which you will be able to cope with.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hmmmm.. You got your point. What I was thinking when I said that to her was that, love can be learned as time goes by. But when I will be in her situation, I don't know. I think it's a hard decision to make. Thank you for your response rappeter.
Have a nice day! :)
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
From a girl's point of view I would rather live with a lover or the person who loves me because girl can fall in love easily with a guy who can understand her, who ism kind and thought and respectful of her. Girls can be easily pursued and always end up loving a man who can provide her with all of her needs and whims! 
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I will probably chose the guy i love,loves me back and isn't stable because in time I know he'll be stable. Just like my boyfriend he's not stable when i first met him but he did his best and work abroad. Love will do everything for your relationship to get better. I will not be hapy if I'm going to choose the one who loves me and I don't the feel the same way, it's so stupid to be with him and just thinking with his money!CRAP :)
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Hi, madam! :)
Evidently, you're choosing the one whom you love and loves you also. My boyfriend now isn't stable yet also but I love him. Maybe I said those things to my friend because as I can see in her attitude, she was a practical lady. She doesn't mind her feelings against the guy as long as the guy can provide for her, she would definitely start a relationship with him. If you only knew the situation she is in right now, you'll definitely be amazed of her situation and decisions. Hehehehe..
@katzar0712 (324)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
the title of your post is very catchy, friend. :)
I'm still analyzing while typing so please bear with me.
when you said the one you love, you were referring to the guy you love and loves you back but is not financially stable. when you said "lover", you were referring to someone who you don't love "yet" but is financially stable. right?
oh, well. tough one to answer especially when you are in a relationship with a guy who is not yet financially stable, haha.
so there goes my answer. i would choose the guy whom I love, loves me back and is not financially doing good "yet". i added the "yet" part because i will make sure that if he really loves me he will do something about that wealth issue.
thanks.
- kat
