A problem with my brother-in-law
By tess_quinain
@tess_quinain (1148)
Philippines
August 18, 2011 5:35am CST
This morning, I sent a text message to my sister about her husband's behavior when she is away for work. I said that he never let the children eat on time. He sometimes never give them a night bath. Never even bother to make the bed for his children. He always focus on that video game. He always start playing at 8pm until 2 or 3 am. Imagine?? I love my nieces so sometimes after work i give them a night bath and make the bed for them. I can't have the guts to nag at my brother-in-law. I don't want us to be in conflict. I don't want him to misunderstood me. So, what i did i just confront my sister about this. Unfortunately, he had my sister's cell phone so he read everything I wrote. I even asked a little amount of money for the water and electricity bills because he has never given any contribution for the the said bills. It means he is free for almost everything except for the food. My aunt pays for it.
I can't tolerate his laziness and lack of care of his children. Now, i am bothered whether he hates me or not. But i don't care. I just told the truth.
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6 responses
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
I can say that you have all the reason to tell everything to your sister since it is your sister who is working and not him.
The guts of this guy...and it's his own kids huh.
You can even kicked his b*tt for that...(okay)
Don't feel bad, it is your right and he's soooo....where is his b*lls to stay home while his wife is working 
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
I agree.. He is so irresponsible and he is very shameless.. He is loving with her wife's family and she is acting like that. Don't mind about if he hate her or not because on the way he act he is nothing. She also have the right to say to her brother in law if her sister do nothing about her husband,that he is useless father because he really act like that..Grrr..That kind of man really make me angry..
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
He is very irresponsible father. He is really lazy. Actually i see my father in law to him because my husband's family relatives told me the attitude of my father in law and it was exactly like you brother in law. I really don't like him because until now he still act like that,that's why i try to ignore him every time that i see him. I know that it is disrespect but every time that he visit my parents house where me and my husband is also living,he also disrespect my parents by acting that he own my parent's house.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 11
Hi tess!
The arrow is out of bow now and you cannot bring back the arrow or can you?
If you have a firm idea that he has read your text message, let it be. Don't bother what he will think about you. You were honest in your approach and you thought it proper to bring to his notice his faults through your sister. Now he has read it he should understand that you did not want to say anything to him directly and he should mend his ways.
If you have a firm idea that he has read your text message, let it be. Don't bother what he will think about you. You were honest in your approach and you thought it proper to bring to his notice his faults through your sister. Now he has read it he should understand that you did not want to say anything to him directly and he should mend his ways.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
As I understand it, you are all living in the same house, right? Most of the time it's really difficult to live with such kind of person in the same house, that's why for me it's really better for a married couple to live on their own. But anyway, I understand your concern for your nieces and it's just right for your sister to know what her husband is doing...
In your case, I think it's just good that your brother in law have read your message and hopefully it awakens him...but I guess you still have to talk about it together with your sister to clear things up, it's difficult that you are living under the same roof and yet you don't what each other is thinking and feeling towards the other...afterall you are all family now, so I hope things will get better...
@koperty3 (1876)
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18 Aug 11
What kind of men is he? Not caring about his children, not paying bills, sitting and completely doing nothing for his family. I really admire your patience to this man. I would really tell him something long time ago and I would confront my sister about it. You have to be saint to tolerate this. I wish you all the best.
@hanjianbo615 (149)
• China
18 Aug 11
hi,tess, i think you need a talk to your brother in law who seems to have no sense of responsibility to family and tell him what's in your mind.maybe there is some misunderstanding between you and him. good luck and have a nice day.
