My friend's fionce kissed me last night
By Ginna1229
@Ginna1229 (9)
China
August 21, 2011 11:42am CST
I have done a terrible thing I think.
My friend's fionce kissed me in a club and I didn't stop him.
Last night, a bunch of friends went to a night club together. My
friend left early, leaving me and her fionce in the club. We started
dancing. I wanted to do a turn-around dance move, when I turned around
back facing him, he folded me in his arms and dance along the music.
I know this is a bit too intimate, but I didn't stop him as I felt good
being hold in someone's arms...(sorry but yes, although I know he is someelse's
fionce). The problem is he started kissing my hair and then on my mouth! I totally
lost myself in that situation. He then took me out of the club and said to me he
found me attractive when we frist met, that was a week ago.
A week ago, he was despirately trying to get his gf(my friend) back! He proposed to my friend but chickened out when my friend asked him to marry her. My friend was pissed off and wanted to split up with him. She invited a few friends to have a drink to talk about this. She showed us the message this guy had sent her. All long messages expressing his feelings and telling her how much he wanted to marry her. Although she didn't want to see him, he found us in a bar. That was the first time I met this guy.
A week later, that was last night, when I met them again so I thought they were back together, since both of them were wearing engagement ring. Unbelievalbly, he
did that to me last night, and even said he wants me!
In the end, I rejected his request and he left me a message saying" kissing you is like touching a beautiful flower that just opened up in front of me, please don't text me back, I created an email using your name and mine, if you want to talk to me send me an email."
After I got home, I just couldn't stop thinking about what had happened. I don't know why I become so easy to let a man lay his hand on me...and what's worse, I am
worried about my friend, is she really going to marry a man like that? Although when I asked him" you love your gf, right?" his answer was" yes "....
Do you think this man is a playboy? What should I do? I guess telling my friend about this is not a very good idea
2 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I suppose self control is a bit late on this one. The only way to answer this would be to think about if this was your fiance, would you like to know? I know I would like to know if a so called friend of mine and my fiance were kissing. I would like to know what I am getting myself into, a true friend would think about my future with this guy.
Think about how, and only if you care about her as a true friend, on how if she marries this guy how miserable her life is going to end up. This will not be easy as I suppose she may end the friendship with you or who knows she may respect the friendship enough to see your honesty. If it were me I would have to come clean and let her know that although, and again if me, that my doing was completely wrong and because I care about I though it was important for her to know. Perhaps because you care about her you may never do this again, but what about the guy though, does he care enough to never do this again, that is really what is the question here, as he just did not kiss you but also sent you an email. 
Do I think he is a playboy, hmm not sure but he certainly is playing around on his fiance. Reason why I say playing around is that if he really loves his fiance he would have had some self control. Good luck and do hope that you do the right thing for her sake. 
Do I think he is a playboy, hmm not sure but he certainly is playing around on his fiance. Reason why I say playing around is that if he really loves his fiance he would have had some self control. Good luck and do hope that you do the right thing for her sake. 1 person likes this
@Ginna1229 (9)
• China
22 Aug 11
Thanks for the comments. I agree with what you said, but why does sending me an email make the case worse in your opinion? I don't get it...
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
23 Aug 11
If he actually cares for your friend, continuing to contact you via email and or any means, says he has not regrets about hurting her, is my thought.
