so hard to let go

I'm sorry to hear that you are undergoing such pain. I think it is wrong for him to ask you to decide regarding this matter. Though you are part of his life, this matter concerns mainly his. I think he still loves his ex-wife and he just make things to appear that the decision is anonymous (you and his). From your post I can sense that you are a loving and generous person. I know someone better will come to your life. Time does heal all wounds and the pain you are experiencing right now will soon past. Just focus on yourself at the moment.

Annierose, you would forget him in time and find your true love. Don't lose hope and courage to love again. I hope it will be soon that you will find a new love that is 100x better than this one. You did the right thing, cause he wanted to do good towards his ex wife.

Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest thing to do. I really feel for your situation. But it seems like you took the mature and responsible road. I hope with time things get easier for you!

Don`t worry annierose, you will soon get over it.As it is and as you have said,you have loved many times and will have to let go once again.Human love, my dear is fickle as it is not really love but merely infatuation and this never lasts because it is not true love. The only love that is true is love for God and you will never lose out because it is eternal.You will get over this too and will find someone else, i am sure.

i am sorry to hear that. but you have done the right thing annierose. let him go and start a new life. someday you will find the right guy who will love you for who you are. you will find the right guy who is no obligation to someone, who is bachelor. and when that time comes, you will definitely have a great time with each other

Oh it is very difficult to stick a broken heart in two. As much as you think it will go scar always remains. Like when you miss a cup and it broke and it shows where his stick was broken and in the heart of everyone. Many hurt and the pain is no cure. You only remains to deal with it because once it is decided there seems some reason. Do your best and you know it. I wish you success. Have a nice day!

This is very sad. You made a sacrifice. It is very kind of you. I know how hard you are feeling to this situation. But anyway you have made your decision and just let it be. Since he will marry to his ex-wife anyway. No matter what, he is married, even if he is loving you. The life must go on. Try to forget it as it will make you feel sad. One day you will meet another good man. I love China

annierose, From what you've shared, I have to say that you've not only made a correct but wise decision to leave him. For what is a man and his love when he is so distracted and torn apart with responsibilities and obligations. I can understand his indecisiveness and your magnanimous decision just made it easier to decide. I do feel for you but if you look at the other side, I am sure you would have seen the endless strife and struggle that comes with you hanging on to a meaningless relationship. So, there's an old mantra which says that it is better to cut with a sharp knife and end this than drag on with a blunt one. This is not the end of the world, the door to this person and his love may be closed but there will be another or rather better person to come. Just don't be too overwhelmed to overlook it when the time comes.

I am sorry to hear you are experiencing this and yes it is quite difficult to deal with as the mind, heart, emotions and soul are all involved. I can only say that although it does not seem to be something we can instantly change, only time will heal the wounds. This and perhaps another love interest, which of course at the moment seems far from now, is the only thing that will heal and mend the heart. Try and keep yourself as busy as possible, go out with girlfriends and or take up some new hobbies which may help take away the thoughts momentarily. Yes all words will seem easier then done because sometimes the heart is stronger then the mind. Best of luck and hope all is over sometime soon for you.

i am sure you will find a person truly deserving of your love. I think he still has feelings for his ex-wife, just accept the situation and move on. there is life ahead!

hi, i had experienced it many times in my life,and letting go of someone is really hard for everyone especially when that person you really loved,because the reason why we cant let go a someone because of the good times and bad times we had shared to each other and that we will really miss and will find it in our life.

We feel it's really hard to let it go.Such a beautiful memories couldn't be forget when we just broke up.Time does heals.The best way for you is to travel to a new place for a month,gradually you may find that you are going forward and just let it go.Thinking and doing other thins could distracted your attention.

I admire you annierose for being that brave to say NO to the person you cherish the most. You are such a great women, you really know where to stand. You are one of a million because some girls I know they will do the opposite of what you did just to follow their heart. I think you made the best decision. I will pray for you that you may conquer all the hardships and you may find true love. You may enjoy yourself to lessen the pain, talk toy our closest friends, party and enjoy the day. Or if there is an importunity to work abroad then GRAB IT. I f you're away you can easily forget him. Just make lots of fun. I wish you the best in life. Godbless