Parent Teacher confrences Vent

It's disconcerting how many people will first advise parents to put their children on medication, without ever considering sugar to be a culprit. I am happy all is going well, and for your one child for working so well with her dyslexia. Great job!

Do they play any sports or take classes like swimming? It might help as an outlet for their energy. I sympathize with you. You're a good mom.

Teachers are neither doctors nor psychologists and are not licensed to practice medicine and should be told so. Some kids need meds, but they need blood levels monitored by a physician as well as liver enzymes, and they need evaluation by a psychologist and they need to be closer to eight or nine before they are given medication for physical reasons. I was one of those kids who did poorly in school up to about fourth grade. Meds were not an option then or they would have convinced my hypochondriac mom to give them to me. She put me in school too early, as I was a late summer baby. She thought she would get in trouble if she did not. I was emotionally immature. Children with learning disabilities are often very smart, but as you said, they need the methods to succeed. Good luck.

Do not put your child on meds unless it is totally necessary,like if she is hurting herself or someone else! When my oldest son was in school,in second grade they said he had ADD.And in the fifth it was changed to he had ADHD after a teacher hit him and my son got mad They had him in special classes and schools. He went to a therapist and was told under no circumstances was he to be separated from me or his brother because it would cause him stress.Because previously,when he was 5 an intruder broke into our home and almost killed me and he witnessed it.I was in a coma for 2 weeks,obviously he was separated from me. At a special education school he was removed and taken to the local mental health center where I met them to find out that his teacher was pregnant and another student started getting violent and could of hurt her,therefore my son basically came to her rescue,but the pricipal decided have "MY" son removed. One day I got a written letter from them that I had to take him to a certain doctor to have him tested to find out how much ADHD he was.I took him and he was tested.The doctor stated verbally to me and in writting to the school board that my son neither had ADD or AHDD at all,that he was just bored with school.He also told me that the school's love to label children because they do not want to go out of their way to handle whatever the problem might be. My youngest son's daughter will be five next month and her parents are split up.However about nine months ago the mother told me that she was going to get her put on meds but the doctor said that she had to wait till she was five.She has been telling everyone that she has ADHD.She told me that she was taking her to the doctor today to get the meds. The truth is she has four children,including my granddaughter.And one she does not have custody of,but see's her for the weekend about every other month when she feels like it.But,she can't handle it. Good luck!

There are so many ways to cope with trouble in kids learning. Meds would be my very last choice. I had a daughter who was amoung the first diagnosed with ADD and thank God she was to old at that tiem to use the MEDs available. We were so despirited at that time that we would have chosen to place her on them. As it turned out she didn't out grow it but instead has learned to compensate and we all feel she's the smartest one in our family of highly intelligent people. Except for Hubby of course who thinks we are all dumber than rocks.

Yes I know what you mean. My son is OCD and it was a major struggle. I outright refused to put him on meds and did a great deal of research on my own. It was not easy as both my daughter who is only two years older then him, helped me as well to have him recognize his behavior. It was a nightmare to deal with but can tell you that although OCD is not something that will ever go away. My son went away to college and I thought he would never function properly as his compulsive behaviors were out of control. I taught my son how to recognize the behaviors and he functioned/functions well. He graduated with a 4.0 GPA all four years plus was the President of his Frat! He lives on his own now and is working as a Mental Health Specialist. So what I can recommend is that you learn as much as you can on how to see her through this. Believe me it is not easy but I find it was the best alternative to medications that alter the brain. My son was never a problem child at school so I could not see him on meds.