when love influence your study
By adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36248)
Indonesia
December 19, 2011 8:36am CST
i make this discussion based on my conversation with my student
he is my student when he take the lesson : theory of electriciy circuit and digital circuits..
and if he study well, he will be graduated in next January..
since 3 or 4 months ago, i had searched him why he never come to campuss anymore..
i know he had problem with his girlfriend who his campus mate too..
and i ever heard the rumour the relationship is not good..
but i still see the girl, but not him, in campus..
recently (tonight) before making this discussion i find him in the street near my campuss..
and i ask him, and he tell evertyhing why he never come to campus again..
wow..if i tell here, it`s a long long story you know..
i even stand until 45 minutes for hearing his story love...
i had given suggestion about love and study..but i always believe only he can cure his problems..
even i talk to him until 1 day, if he can`t find the solution and doesn`t want to cure his love hurt, my speech is useless i think
now i realize why some of student is failed...one of the problem because of love..
what about you guys??
have a nice day
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12 responses
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
Many people are not ready, face the problems of love. Especially young people. Issues of love, is a complicated question, because it concerns matters of the heart. Even love, can make the lives lost. Love is able to change someone's life. You should advise your students, not slumped because of love, and go to college. Do not let your student, dropped out of love. The future of your students would be bad, if it continues to fall into love.
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
Hi there ashyz82! Well, ya some people are like that, when they got heart aches or love problems, they are not able to do anything or concentrate on anything, and I think that is really bad. I mean, your life shouldn't stop because of that, we have got other things to do rather than worrying about it and not making a solution for it. I'm in a relationship, and I am still studying in college too but I also make sure that school, relationship and other stuff, are totally different business. Those problems shouldn't mix together, because it will be harder to solve. Anyways, I hope your student can get his head up and make up his mind, if the relationship, doesn't really work, then I think it's time for him to move on and continue on his dreams. Have a nice day!
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
yes, i think he did not focus..
in his mind, maybe only the girl.
i don`t mind for him hating the girl..
but i give him a view from me, that his life is not only talking or telling about girl, but he had future, and now he is still student..
why he must ignore his study because of the love?
it`s not simple i know..talk about love is not like talk about mathematics..
@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
Altough it is not mathematics, life is just like a arithmethic series. Which we should continue to go on as 1,2,3 and so on.
When we stop moving, life will left us, and no more love can come.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
14 Sep 12
It depends on how serious you are about studies. I had a love affair during my college days and it broke up just before my semester exams. It could have spoiled my studies and my career. But I thought about my parents and their expectations. Somehow I managed to pick myself up and did my exams well.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
25 Dec 11
Love hurts everybody who has ever been involved in it. Not to mention your students, even we adults are not able to take the heart break of it, resulting in us missing work and all. U should have seen it all, happening to friends, relatives to even mylotters. Love is potent poison where it can paralyze us the moment it breaks our heart. I've been through that stage too and i really don't feel like doing anything, but cry all day time. It's even worse when i start to miss the old times, and yet i can't do anything.
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 12
yes, love can hurt everybody.but love is not only giving the bad side..sometimes love can make our life is colourful..
what i had to concern is whatever love give effect for you, we should focus with our actitivity..sometimes can break our focus but we must controll our life..
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@moneywinner (1863)
• Brazil
23 Jan 12
I think that persons should not let love interfere in the studies, because love can over when you least expected while what you study is for the rest of our lives. At least this is what I think, I always put my future career in first place than a boyfriend.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
20 Dec 11
Well, it is really a pity that a good student is falling. First, i don't know is he in high school or college now. I think talking about love is too early for those high school students, and they are not mentally mature, and the relationship developed in such young age are easy to fail. And another reason why high school students had better not date is that there are very high pressure on their study and dating can draw their attention, therefore influence their future. Of course, there are a few students who have girlfriends or boyfriend can focus their attention on study, in fact, some of them can help each other in study and i think they are also serious on their relationship.
Well,i know you have talked with him, maybe he just needs some time to recover,do wish he can overcome this and go back to his study as soon as possible.
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
he is college student..so his age more than 17 years..
in my country now, it`s normally we can see the girl in junior high school had a boyfriend..it`s amazed if i take back with my situation when iam teenager..
actually i don`t care if they had a boyfriend or girlfriend..it`s their right..but if their private life make their focus to study is not good, it`s our duty to remember them
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Dec 11
Hi adhyz: My feelings, not only a love relationshio can affect the way I work or study so I understand your student situation. However, I think that you have to recover yourself, look for advice and grab yourself to the ones you love and recover yourself, at least for a moment and to understand that even with all the sadness you have to recover yourself for you and keep working.
ALVARO
@Inderjeetkaur (944)
• India
20 Dec 11
I agree love influence study. Someone has rightly said, "Love can either make you or break you". School and college love interests are extremely strong and based on strong emotional attachments. It is not easy for a student to deal with heartbreaks, and this affects their academic progress also. Your student is lucky to have you to guide him. You need to understand that he will not change overnight with a single night's conversation. Your guidance might have soothed him, but not healed his love wounds totally. It will take some time. Be patient and keep helping him with your kind words.
@microengineer (587)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
Use love positively. What ever come can eventually go away. I think rationally, when we are not yet married, there is no need to be very sad when we are parted. We can not really falling love when not yet married. Why, because we always put mask on our face and want to look the best as we can in front of our mate. But rare people that can stay like this after married.
Tell to your student, show must go on. Man should be strong but not heartless. Move on.
@adhyz82 (36248)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
i had suggested like my experience..
i always believe that his study is the first for him..
after than his love relationship the second or the third i think..
i always believe that if he must search another business or activity, slow but sure, his hurt will be cured i think
@heartbit (237)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
i am also a student but i know i should never allow love to totally affect my study that way. yes it hurts and its hard to get over but your student must realize to move on. i hope you won't get tired of talking to him to finally see the light one day. i guess more than anything that's what your student needs, someone who will set him back again to the right directions.
@sumopunk539 (62)
• India
20 Dec 11
This is my first response on mylot. So you are a teacher.
i had a nice day ofcourse.
