Just for married people or those who are in a relationship.

I think it depend on the situation because there are also possibility that they are just invited or they are just joining his/her friends when the time you met him/her. There is also possibility that you can say what kind of personality he/she have depend on type place you met them like my husband i met him in a music bar, and because of that i got an idea what kind of personality he have, he drink occasionally and he also love music.

This is a very interesting topic, and of course, I have an opinion about this. I haven't read the comments yet but I'll bet my bottom peso that most would disagree. I think that there is a grand design that is at work here. Most of the time, a person finds his or her special someone on an unexpected place or situation. Okay, so let's say you have decided to devote your whole life inside a church hoping you would find the one person that would complete you there. And you would count the years, and years waiting but one day, on your way home, you met someone in a dark and murky alley. Is that person not worthy of a chance to be that someone you could have for the rest of your life? Are you going to be oblivious? This also seems to me like you are actually molding the person you want to meet. And for me, if you have a pre-set characteristics for the one you are hoping to meet, it doesn't quite give out an opportunity for you and that persone to grow. Let's say you found someone religious, goes to the same church you go to, prays the same prayers, hears the same sermons, etc. You beliefs would be based on a common faith system. I can imagine both of you saying "yes" to each other all the time. One would think that is a good thing but it is practically putting yourselves in a box, sharing the same four corners, and seeing the same shed of light that goes in it. Both of you will be bound to what each other knows and believes in. I'm not saying the compatibility does not have a part to play here, it is important. But being compatible 100% of the time is just over the top. More importantly, not all people you find in the church are religious, and not all people in a bar are drunkards. A little sense of adventure ALWAYS makes something worth having. Diversity allows for growth. Finally, the world is too rich a place to find your one true love. Why stay inside a box?

i don't think that. i met my first husband at the bowling alley on the army base. he was a soldier and i worked the food court. we got married six weeks later. divorced nine years later. for the most part, he was a good person. we each had our own luggage and didn't know how to communicate to each other. my second husband is my brother in law's cousin. we got married a year after we had our first date. we'll be celebrating our tenth anniversary later this year. we definitly have our luggage, but we have also learned how to communicate to each other. i think that's what's most important, learning how to communicate with the other person. that and compromises....he likes to go out, i like to stay in. so we compromise. we go out one night a week, his choice. we stay in the other nights. ;) we also have our cue words that let the other know when we are stressed and need a break from the routine.

Partly I agree. It is not always that it happens this way. Sometimes, someone may like going to bars or drinking just because he or she feels bored when staying alone in the house and soon he or she finds a companion, he may change to be a different person because in the first place what made him party too much was the loneliness.

I think we can not judge a person by where he or she hangs out or usually go to. There are people who are forced to such places maybe because of their friends, family or some relatives. We wouldn't know why they are there maybe just to have fun, meet with someone or have party. A place where we meet people is not a factor or a way of telling the kind of person of he or she is. We might misjudge a person if we uses this in knowing a person. We can not judge people by how he or she act, or where he or she go. For me the best way to know a person is to interact with him or her more often and communicate with each other.

Sure! If I meet people in bars, I would expect that they are drinkers, right? But at the same time, we should be aware that there are exceptions to every rule. I've known some people who go to church all the time but aren't strong in their beliefs, for instance.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was not given to me but I heard it on a radio show ... these two guys, who are bachelors in their late 30's, so they've been through a lot in the relationship world...and world in general... were talking about relationships and offering advice to a listener who felt like she was invisible and always in the "friend zone." They told her to get a job working behind the counter somewhere she enjoys hanging out (music store, bookstore, craft store). That way she is the last stop for anyone shopping there and they have to come to her. They said no one has ever been more intimidating or intriguing to them than the cute girl working at the record store. So, yeah, based on that, I think that looking for people based on locale is a good starting point. If you want someone bookish and intelligent, "shop" at the bookstore. If you want someone to cook with, shop for them at the kitchen supply store (not the kitchen department of Home Depot or Bed Bath and Shoot Me in the Foot Please... a real kitchen supply that sells high end cookware and weird gadgets).

a place where you meet your spouse or partner will certainly not define the kind of person he/she is. it takes time to know a person's qualities and that's why for couples, they are advised to know each other better or best that they can before getting married. and sometimes we only know the real personality of your spouse once you live under one roof. the truth it, looks sometimes is deceiving that is why we should not judge a person by it, or by the place he/she is frequently seen.

I disagree with that. Me and my husband meant in history class in high school I hate history he likes it. It doesn't mean that we both are book warms because we meet there and stuff no. Where every you meet a person that you marry or in a relationship were you first meet doesn't say anything much about the person. Weather its a bar,at sport even, music concert at church events. Meet some at church to me doesn't say oh this is person is really religious they could be there checking things out they could have done something asking for advise. The same with a bar or club I don't assume they are smoker or drinker. I like going to clubs and I don't smoke and I don't drink at all and that's not because I'm a parent and having another baby. Its because one I just don't like those things at all. I do like a drink now and then but those are normally special occasions that I do that on and I won't be drinking for at least almost a year right now.

On one hand if u dont want a man thats in bar all night everynight id say its best to stay clear ftom finding a man there..yet i do know some that really would rather be at home with a lovely woman than there but scince they are single they dont wana sit at home alone allnight. so no i dont really agree but i really cant say...i met my husband in highschool. an we have helped eachother grow....17 yrs together this year..