Communication and being honest is one of the strongest factor in relationship

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My boyfriend had attended his school reunion last Saturday, it just so happened that he met his first love again and they talked to each other. The woman was asking for his forgiveness because my boyfriend was basted to her when they were still college. Of course my boyfriend was devastated to think it was Christmas Eve when he was informed by this woman that she has her boyfriend already that is why they can't be together in relationship. Then eventually she told my boyfriend that it was all LIE because the truth is she has family problems and so on then she apologized for what she did since she can feel the guilt since her marriage is not in good terms now. She thought it was a karma though my boyfriend told her that it was not maybe that is just a challenge. Now my boyfriend had told me about this matter just to help him analyze the situation about the closure that he have done to his first love. He even asked me if is false that a woman will basted a guy. I just told him that any woman has the right to basted a guy even I myself can do that. She can basted as many as she can but the point here is that she shouldn't tell a lie and she must be reasonable enough of how come she doesn't want a guy more so she shouldn't let the guy feel that he has a chance then in the end a girl doesn't want a guy. I told my boyfriend that I did that before well because the guy didn't court me in the first place and he didn't treated me well so how could I feel that he really loves me? But then as I analyzed the situation the point is she tell a lie and I think she brought dignity if she was able to tell the truth especially in matured manner that they can't be together because of the problems that she is having. Another thing here is that she tell a lie for the sake of being done quickly that thing turns me off. Honestly I don't respect that kind of person because I could think that there is a big problem with their personality. And my boyfriend even told me that she is type of person who wouldn't talk not until you asked. She is not a type of person that she will explain how she feels, it is like you have to be a mind reader in order for you to know the whole truth. I don't think this kind of mentality would work in a relationship. So I also analyzed that maybe her marriage life is not that strong because of the attitude on how she communicates. Maybe there were lots of misunderstanding with her husband maybe because she is fund of telling lies rather than being straight to the point. My point here is that strong communication with your partner is really important not just the intimacy. Because in the first place you were been comfortable to do the deed and to get your clothes off then you are not comfortable to talk with your partner by being straight to the point? You have this ill feeling or you are afraid to tell the truth? What is the sense that both of you are together.