Man cave

By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
February 15, 2012 3:25pm CST
Does your guy have a man cave? My husband he wishes he had a man cave. Right now he calls our bathroom his royal thrown. We live in a two story apartment so all the bedrooms are used and filled with people in them. I told my husband one day he'll have a man cave with what ever he wants to put in that room he can have just as long as he keep it clean and no trash in there. I think its every man's dream to have a room all to himself just for his things and what he likes that some times his partner doesn't like or wants to look at. The rest of the house is neutral its shared space with things that we both like and can stand looking at.
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@urbandekay (18278)
15 Feb 12
An Englishman's home is his shed! Me, I have 3 sheds and a workshop all the best urban
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Feb 12
Well you have a good piece of land then. We don't have that every where in America but here guys tend to tall the bathroom there room as well as the deck for bbq and then of course a room to themselves some times is there man cave then have one of those choice or where they keep there car. It all depends on where you live in the US.
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@urbandekay (18278)
16 Feb 12
Really? Here in UK women seem to spend half their life in the bathroom all the best urban
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Feb 12
Well remember its different every where else in the world. Every man has there own places that is there man cave or as close as it gets to one.
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• United States
18 Feb 12
He does, sort of. Before it was the basement, but it keeps flooding so he's moved everything upstairs to the "office" and made that his workspace/train room. I have no real problem with that, but it leaves me with either the "guest room" or the dining room for rooms with a door I can close. Both are freezing cold and I don't have the computer to use. I feel left out because I moved and almost nothing, so for now I only have the computer or TV for entertainment, both in the living room. I'd really have liked a dedicated office space to use for bill paying, and if I decide to go back to school, office work. But that will never happen here because he thinks that I should be entirely domesticated and be dedicated to doing housework constantly. I wasn't raised that way, and we can't afford to have me at home all the time, so obviously we clash. (em]thumbdown[/em]
• United States
20 Feb 12
Well it sounds as if you and your husband actually share your special room-he with his throne and you with the tub. But that's great that he supports you being home. All of my major relationships (my ex-fiance, my ex-husband and this fiance) had mothers who stayed home and kept house-my mother worked nearly my entire life. I guess that's the reason that these men expected me to take care of the home where I just wanted some extra help. I'd love to be able to afford to stay home, but right now we're just not in a position to. How old is your daughter? Mine is now nearly 19, so I guess trying to raise her is a moot point, but I always wanted to.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Feb 12
I hate man like that. I stay home and take care of the house or my daughter but that ways my choice. We can't really afford it either but its something I enjoy and my husband understands that. I don't work well with other adults to much. If a women wants to stay home that is her choice and I feel no man has a right to tell a women she has to stay home. If my husband told me that is all I"m good for I would leave him in a heart a beat and he knows it. My husband he works all day so normally the whole apartment is mine with my daughter. I don't really want a special room I think the bath tub is good enough for me. Because I love taking baths.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
22 Feb 12
My mom was a working mom and so is my husband mom so its nothing new to him having no parents around. I enjoy kids so being with them all day makes me day even though some times it drives me nuts. My husband doesn't expect me to do anything that I don't want to do that even means house chores. My daughter is almost 13 months we have another little one on the way due in September. I'll have two to handle soon enough.
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
15 Feb 12
I think everyone needs their own space, a little place you can do your own thing and feel like it is yours, and men are no different, I think every man should have some little place to call his own.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Feb 12
I can agree with that. Me I really don't need a place and that might be because when my husband is at work I have the house to me and my daughter and when she gets old enough then there is school and I'll still only have on kid so in those times whole house is to myself.
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@cyclopz (251)
• Sydney, Australia
16 Feb 12
For me i don't seem to care if my parner would go through all my things and i think i don't even have anything to hide if i trust her. Maybe some people would like to have their own privacy even from their partners but i think they also have their own reasons why they wan't to have their own privacy. I think each person is quite unique and they have their own different views regarding this.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Feb 12
Well we aren't talking about hiding things or keeping things from your partner that isn't what a man cave is. A man cave is where a guys go to hang out away form everyone that lives in there house with them. Its like a women wanting a knitting or sawing rooming. I know my husband has nothing to hide there are just some things he wants in the house that i don't want and there are things that I want that he doesn't want. So a man cave is cool with me for those annoying things that I don't want to look at every day especially during football when I just want to shoot the tv.
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@vexxus (712)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I used to have my man cave, from our former house, but we move into another place so I can't have my man cave because our new house is way too small than before, too bad and I miss that freedom.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Feb 12
That sucks down sizing is never fun but some times for the best. My husband would love a room one day but he knows its okay that he doesn't have one.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
15 Feb 12
A cave for a man is usually a den or if he's not the office type he will use the garage as a cave. There he will store all his tools and what nots so he can get away without leaving the house. I realize this is a hard thing to do in an apt type of dwelling though. I wish all the best and hope he gets his wish come true one day. You made me chuckle re: the Royal Throne, that was funny.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Feb 12
Well its pretty much the only place that is his own at times I can see that even myself the tub is my royal throne. Well in the US I think men call different things there cave depending on the type of person the men is like a women. My husband has an office job so he doesn't work for home so he would never have and office like my parents had. Well he doesn't like tools so a garage isn't really him either. He is a sports men so a man cave would be its own room with a tv away from his family. Its just us girls so we don't really like watching sports.
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@sharay (2769)
• India
16 Feb 12
My hubby is not really particular about having his own room unless we disturb this things or interfere regarding those...there are certain objects which i say are not needed to be kept and could be thrown away for its of no use, but he wont do that, he says anything can be useful dont know when...at situations like this, he feels like he needs to have a room for himself
@sharay (2769)
• India
19 Feb 12
Even my hubby is interested in sports channels, at that time, i really feel sorry for him for my daughter does not allow him to watch...he does not like watching it in the net online...so, he just moves on to other works...i wish he had one too!
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Feb 12
I don't like watching sports at all. I love playing them but I can't stand stand listening to a bunch of people yelling at the tv like the people can hear them through it. So normally if my husband wants to watch a football I either got to our bed room or he does. I've always hated watching sports since I was really little and I would get mad all of the time because I would be the one that would have to leave and go down stairs to watch tv because I didn't want to watch what they where watching. So as we me and my brothers got older we each got our own tv so that way I could just go to my room and watch tv.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Feb 12
Well my husband once one and I would like him to have one just because I don't like watching sports and stuff and I really don't want to have look at that stuff all of the time. So maybe one day he'll have one. I tell my husband not to buy things all of the time even though he wants them. I tell him we have no use for it and that our money should be better spend on our kids and he'll normally agree with me. He tell's me he wouldn't know what to do if he didn't have me around to remind him of things like that.
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
15 Feb 12
Hi ShyBear, I am sure he would love a "man cave"...I agree I'll bet every man would love a "man cave"...But do they ever think that we would also like a "girls spa", thats not happening either...Tell him to put that thoughtful wish into the new baby....LOL..no "man cave" with a new baby in the house....
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Feb 12
I didn't say now did I that he has one? I never said that. Yeah we are having a new baby but that has nothing to do with a man cave if you read above I said we lived in a 2 story apartment where everyone has a room so he doesn't get a man cave yet. One day yes he'll have a man cave when we get a house. It might not be our first house but our second house. I don't really need a room to myself. I don't even like spa or getting my nails done. I'm not a girly girl so I'm a cool wife I don't care if my husband has a man cave one day. That is something that he wants and that is okay and one day he'll get it might not be tomorrow and he knows that. If we didn't have a roommate he would have a man cave right now. We share a room, our daughter is going to be sharing a bed room and our room mate has her own room to herself. So she is lucky she doesn't have share a bed room right now.
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