Will you going to lie to protect someone you love?

@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
February 24, 2012 8:00am CST
Just wondering. If you are in my situation. Will you going to lie to protect someone you love? My brother has a girlfriend and he love her so much problem is this. My brother don't know that the gifts she give to her girlfriend her girlfriend sometimes sell or give them away if she don't like the gift. I know if I'm going to tell my brother about this I end up being the bad guy and here for sure if he ask her and deny it I'm the one who is in bad light. So what do you think I will do?
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10 responses
• Canada
24 Feb 12
I would tell your brother about it if i were you because if he finds it from someone else about this then not only will he be hurt by what his gf is doing but he will also feel betrayed by you. If you tell him now, he will be hurt but he can atleast confront the gf about the gifts and see what she says and find out if she truly love him or not. I can defintely lie to protect someone i love but it depends entirely on the situation as like the situation you are describing I would rather say the truth because that would be right thing to do for your brother's sake
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Actually right now. I think he knows. He just pretend that he don't know simply because he love her girlfriend and don't want to make an issue out of it. I guess that's what life is all about. If you love someone your willing to dismiss it.
@winston90 (296)
• Romania
24 Feb 12
Tell him bro. What kind of brother are you? If you don not tell him you are not protecting him You are protecting his heartless girlfriend. Your brother deserves to know the truth. Sooner or later he is going to find out what his beloved girlfriend does with his gifts (wwhich by the way he showldn't buy her, because they are not marryed, and even if they were, what point it makes), and then you will be sorry that you didn't tell him yourself sooner. be a brother to him, not a wuss.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
And if I told him and he got mad at me because for him its just a minor issue and I'm making a big deal out of it then what kind of brother I am to him then? And do you think he don't know or have a clue about it? She is her girlfriend and I think my brother know it. He just pretend he don't know because he lover her.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
I think it's not bad to lie if we protect someone we love. Because there's need to lie if the life of our love one's are endanger...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 May 12
You right, friend. It's hard to be a human being but better this way to be an evil one and live like animal
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
That's right. Sometimes its better to make that fall than your love ones. Its really complicated to be a human being right? We only have one life and we know how precious life is but sometimes we just throw it away to protect someone we love.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I had learned my lesson a long time ago about getting into other people's business. Even your brother. Especially if they are in a relationship. You always end up being the bad guy. I had learned my lesson twice in my life. well I guess, you can talk to the girl and confront her about it. Just tell her you know what she is doing and your brother doesn't know about it but you feel bad about it because he is your brother and you are also hurting for your brother. I think it is not really nice to do that. So you should let her know that it makes you feel bad. If she reacts differently then she is not the right girl for your brother. Maybe she doesn't even love your brother. Or maybe she needs the money so bad that's why she is selling stuff. Go and find out. This will lessen the intensity of what you are feeling right now.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Confronting her will make it worse. Its better that I will going to tell my brother and let my brother confront me for saying it then let her confront me. because its will make my brother more furious. Because in our family if you have an issue. Tell that to the person affected and let that person deal with it. And I'm happy that you understand or know why I'm hesitant to do it because you experience it to.
@06MLam (620)
24 Feb 12
Just give some clues to your brother and let him find this out himself and make him to do the decision rather than you making the decision. By this, his girlfriend doesn't know that it was you who make your brother realise it and the relationship between you and your brother won't be broken as he won't think that you are trying to break his relationship with his girlfriend by saying bad words about her.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Clues? I guess he also know it. He don't need clues. Its his girlfriend I don't think if we are talking about clues he don't know about it. He just need some slap in your face reality check to make it registered to his brain. But I guess if I do that I'm going to be the bad guy in here and that's what I don't like to happen.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
24 Feb 12
it is good when we telling lie to protect someone's love but in this scenario i will suggest you that yo should tell tell all the thing to your brother because one day it will come out and when your brother knows that you knows all thing then he blaims you also.and when your brother's girlfriend deny it ask her for proof and she does not have any proof because you say that she sell their gifts already.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I know. But sometimes if you love a person anything that person do is seem a minor issue to you. And what I'm afraid also is that my brother will think that I have some issues behind that. And even if he will believe me but dismiss it as just a minor issue. Then his girl friend will going to be mad at me but same time my brother take it lightly because he love his girl friend.
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
There's always another way of telling it to your dearly beloved and longed for brother. You can tell him what he thinks if his girlfriend sold the gift. Wait for his reaction and base it from there. I think that there are circumstances when we need to conceal something to save lives. Most of the time though, we don't need to lie and live a liar for the rest of our lives. There's always a better to do things. Blessings to you.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Nice idea. I'm thinking if I'm going to say it. I guess my brother reaction is this. why did I open that kind of topic. theirs always a reason behind it. Do I make an issue about it? Second if he know or I guess he know because its his girlfriend that involve in the first place. Then I guess he either going to be defensive because he feel that his ego has been hit since he already know it. Or any other reaction that result to negative vibes.
@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
If he's my brother, then I'll jut give him a hint or two. He's my brother but that doesn't mean he'll totally believe everything I told him. Plus he need to learn about it himself or he'll never accept it. If she's selling it online I'll find a way to show him the url or print it out on purpose (me, scheming, no~~~~) At least he has the right to know even indirectly.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
His girlfriend is not that obvious or desperate to sell online. lols. Sometimes she give it away sometimes she sell it if its some value. But I think my brother know it. He just dismiss it to pretend that he don't know so that their will be no confrontation simply because my brother love her. as simply case as love is really make things complicated.
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I think you should tell your brother. He would only get hurt if he will learn of her girlfriend selling or giving away the gifts he is giving her. It could only mean that she doesn't love your bro.
• Japan
24 Feb 12
I feel bad for your brother.The girlfriend should appreciate his thoughtfulness.If I were you,I'd tell him so that he & his gf would talk things out properly.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I know its the right thing to do to tell my brother. But the way I know my brother this issue is just a minor issue to him. I guess he already know it but since he love her I don't think he going to make an issue out of it. But I guess if I told him that personally he and his girlfriend will make an issue of the reason why I tell him.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
It is possible. But in your case you should try to help your bro also if you know what's happening.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
And what if he don't believe me? Then I look like a bad guy in here right? Sometimes even if we want to help if that person don't want to believe you then in the end its you who become the bad guy. And what if even if he going to believe he dismiss it as just some minor issues. then its shows that I'm making some issue about it don't you agree?