Wake me up ...I might be dreaming
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39140)
Philippines
May 16, 2012 5:49am CST
I thought this is just another script from a good movie.
It's been a year since the last time I've talked with this friend and I can't believed what I've heard.
His wife left our country with only visit visa hoping to find a job in gulf country.
During her stays there, she was able to find part time jobs but haven't find a permanent one that can give her a working visa.
Her visit visa is almost over and what she did is.
She accepted one offer - marriage for convenience- (the guy holds a permanent visa thus marrying him will give her permanent visa soon)enough time for her to stay and find a good job.
-the condition is-
After marriage, they will live in one roof, but no physical attachment and once the girl find a job, she will pay the guy.
But-temptation surround them and to make things worse, she got pregnant.
The guy is also married back home and went home to spend his vacation and never return.
Now, his wife comes home with the kid and my friend is willing to accept her and the kid.
But his wife wants separation and to search the guy she married in gulf - because- she loves that guy now more than him.
I know I am very much awake and not dreaming.
Good day everyone 
jaiho®- I need a good movie to watch (-_-)
5-16-2012 6:47pm Wednesday PT
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5-16-2012 6:47pm Wednesday PT3 people like this
14 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 May 12
Hi jai
Oh no! 'Never heard about that happening in the gulf. I thought it happens only for people who wants to have a US visa, marrying a guy she never knew and divorcing after getting what s/he wants. She should have at least went back home instead of taking that offer. In gulf countries, some love stories ends up nowhere especially if both or at least one is already married. Hmmm... interesting how she's the one who really wanted separation from her first husband... I wonder what the husband felt upon knowing what she did.
Oh no! 'Never heard about that happening in the gulf. I thought it happens only for people who wants to have a US visa, marrying a guy she never knew and divorcing after getting what s/he wants. She should have at least went back home instead of taking that offer. In gulf countries, some love stories ends up nowhere especially if both or at least one is already married. Hmmm... interesting how she's the one who really wanted separation from her first husband... I wonder what the husband felt upon knowing what she did.1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello en,
Good to see you again dear.
I have heard about this already- many who did and how easy they can get marry so both can live under one roof.
I am saying only a particular place in gulf- since other places are too strict as we know very well.
But in this particular place- it is known-it's happening, too open for elicit affairs :(
In this case, if we look intensely, the guy already left and did not return or maybe returned but hide from her.
That only means, the guy still choose his family back home.
While this girl is blindly in love with this guy and left her legal family in chance to see the guy again.
Granting she will/might find him- what's the assurance that the guy will fall for her like she feels right?
Really so bad and I feel so sorry for my friend.
I never thought he's been through such dilemma.
But, that's life that he must face.
take care my dear and hope to see you soon- in person 
,
Good to see you again dear.
I have heard about this already- many who did and how easy they can get marry so both can live under one roof.
I am saying only a particular place in gulf- since other places are too strict as we know very well.
But in this particular place- it is known-it's happening, too open for elicit affairs :(
In this case, if we look intensely, the guy already left and did not return or maybe returned but hide from her.
That only means, the guy still choose his family back home.
While this girl is blindly in love with this guy and left her legal family in chance to see the guy again.
Granting she will/might find him- what's the assurance that the guy will fall for her like she feels right?
Really so bad and I feel so sorry for my friend.
I never thought he's been through such dilemma.
But, that's life that he must face.
take care my dear and hope to see you soon- in person @enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 May 12
That's possible to happen in UAE, Qatar or Kuwait... there's really lots of illicit affairs and some are 'lucky' enough to get fake documents for them to look like they were genuine couple. I know some, and before I didn't know I was with a couple who's not real husband and wife. A friend just felt something and later she found out both of them has a family in the Philippines. Uh-oh!
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 May 12
and I forgot to say... if it's only for the visa thing, it's not worth to go with someone. She could have at least borrowed some money from some friend and stayed for a month again til she find herself a job.
That would never enter my mind if it happens to me, good thing I got a job before my visa run out.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 May 12
that's really sad, did the girl contacted the guy, I thought he left her and never came back from vacation. How come she wants a legal separation since she don't know if the guy will supports her. 
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 May 12
Yhea Jai I know what's your talking toO I also feel for her but I just can't understand she didn't know whereabouts of the guy how come she make decision of coming back yo the gulf. The kid needs a father and she's lucky enough that her husband now is accepting her. If she is only for the sake of her children she would accept the kindness of her husband and let go of his feeling about this guy.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 May 12
It's some kind of teleserye (hehehe)
The girl is now back in gulf- I don't know what will be my friend's decision once his wife will come back to him as a loser.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
28 May 12
hello lyn,
Maybe the girl is hoping the guy did return in gulf, but only hiding from her.
But still, the fact that the guy stop communicating with him, is enough to prove that the guy is not interested with her anymore.
However, the girl is so stupid (maybe, I don't know) as she say's she loves the guy more than her husband- and will do everything to find the guy.
Oh well- that's love, but she should think of her kids as a mother.
Although it's hard to judge her- :x
You are also a mother and I know what I mean
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
17 May 12
hello D,
It's really sad to hear such story.
I wonder why some people can't think twice before jumping into another mistake.
I hope she will realized what she lost.
I cannot understand where does the mother instinct goes either- why she has to choose her own happiness over her kids. :xxx
have a good day dear
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hi jai,
Do I know the guy?
Well this is sad really
Temptations are just around
miss yah
happy mylotting
Temptations are just around
miss yah
happy mylotting
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
I have told you about his problem before.
I am sure you can still remember him.
Miss yah...hope to see you soon
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
7 Jun 12
I don't have any idea about different types of Visa; one point i can't digest, how can two persons live in one room and won't have physical contact?
it is just like keeping butter near fire and telling it won't melt..
hugs from maa
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@factorial (977)
• Philippines
16 May 12
What a very sad story... really very sad... a really true sad story...
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello factorial,
Really a sad one.
I've heard and watched sad stories- but hearing it from a friend- it another thing.
thanks and have a good day
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
they only have one kid- now my friend is left with two kids :x
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
16 May 12
How about the children of your friend? Really sad...
Good day
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@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
16 May 12
i know of a situation like this. my sister. she is married to an older man from nigeria. he married her so he could stay in the country. only she wanted children and he didn't want any. anyway, she left to go to another state so that she could find someone to get her pregnant. she wanted a baby so bad. she met this guy, and after a couple of month of meeting him got pregnant. now her and the guy broke up and she wants to get back with her husband. she says that he is the only one who was ever there for her no matter what. do you know what? he is willing to taker her back...baby and all. no, i am not dreaming either. people are crazy now a days. your friend and my sister should all be on a movie.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
17 May 12
hello MG,
I know that movie scripts are modified from real life events and it's not the other way round.
It's shocking to know one having same stories.
I bet my friend's wife and your sister are good actresses of their own script- that's what they choose for their roles to play. (so sad)
Thanks for sharing and have a good day
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
16 May 12
im sorry for your friend he let his wife goes for her to help him and find a good job so they could have a better life and in the end he lost her. im really sorry for this. it really seems from a movie thats right.i wish that your friend be ok. im sure he must be sad and hurt. anyway im sure that someday he will find someone to makes him happy^^ about your friend's wife i dont know how she can find the gulf guy. if the guy left her how can she find him? your friend was really sweet to accept her and the kid. other guy wouldnt do that. she is losing a great guy.
he let his wife goes for her to help him and find a good job so they could have a better life and in the end he lost her. im really sorry for this. it really seems from a movie thats right.i wish that your friend be ok. im sure he must be sad and hurt. anyway im sure that someday he will find someone to makes him happy^^ about your friend's wife i dont know how she can find the gulf guy. if the guy left her how can she find him? your friend was really sweet to accept her and the kid. other guy wouldnt do that. she is losing a great guy.1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello cat,
Nice to see you again
I admire my friend for his decision and great love.
That's what I do not understand with his wife- the guy already left her, and why she still looks for him.
One thing more- she left her kid too and now she's back abroad hoping to find the guy who impregnated her.
This is a true story of great love- and I hope this will have a happy ending soon.
thanks and have a good day
I admire my friend for his decision and great love.
That's what I do not understand with his wife- the guy already left her, and why she still looks for him.
One thing more- she left her kid too and now she's back abroad hoping to find the guy who impregnated her.
This is a true story of great love- and I hope this will have a happy ending soon.
thanks and have a good day 
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
16 May 12
hi jai,
Knock knock.. wake up!
Movie based on "true stories". I can join you for a movie with Coffee, right?
It is hard to accept conditions for job, couldn't she extend her visit visa? was it necessary that she had to accept this condition. No physical but end up pregnant..i think she's more stupid, leaving such a kind hearted husband and searching for that man who made all the contracts null & void.
Oh god.. i need some coffee now..
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello viju,
I'm here :p
and having my coffee as well (hahaha)
All I know is that she cannot extend her visit visa and she only had two choices
- to come home
- or to accept the last option
Let's say the marriage for convenience is the best way for her to retain.
but she can always stay with the condition of "no physical attachment" but- she was not able to control the temptation.
In this case- she has even fallen in love with the guy and demands a legal separation with her legal husband.
It's hard to conclude- who's fault or not- it's done.
But- she can always start a new life since her husband is much willing to accept her and the kid.
Oh.....life...
Want more coffee?
@keihimekawa (2007)
• Philippines
17 May 12
My heart goes to your friend. He's a martyr and maybe he really loves his wife a lot. His wife (or ex-wife) is kinda unfair to do that to him. What will happen to her two kids? The woman is also quite awesome since she actually left her legal family and searched for the guy who left her. I hope all of them will be able to find closure on this issue.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
17 May 12
hello kei,
I cannot blame the girl for falling in love, yes, I understand that love is powerful than anything else.
But, being a mother, she must consider a great part of it, her kids.
I cannot imagine a mother who left her kids for the sake of personal affairs. (sorry, I am not in any position to judge-but her motherhood is really questionable)
My friend says, he will raise the kids (his own kid and his wife son)
But he doesn't know if he can accept his wife once she comes back.
Thanks and have a good day
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
17 May 12
hello yel,
Indeed a tragic story and very complicated one.
Yes, she's not worth the love my friend is offering, but love can do wonders beyond our imagination.
I just wonder why she can't see how good her husband is.
Not to mention she has kids already, one from her legal husband and one from her affairs.
Hope she consider her kids as her priorities and not her personal matters.
Thanks and have a good day
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
16 May 12
Ooh dear, that's the way love goes.., that's the way love goes for some people. In the quest for economic prosperity, some people make some interesting decisions which - if not carefully though out- will have dire consequences for all involved. Let us hope that this unfortunate situation can be resolved quickly, because the only innocent person in this terrible 'bind' is the child.
I dread the thought that if this situation (between the parties involved) is not dealt with amicably, this child is destined to hurt.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello samson,
Exactly, it's the kid that might suffer in the end.
Although my friend already accepted the kid and he is taking care of him, we can never tell once the kid will come to know the truth behind.
This is another example of life's complication- when people can choose to make it simplier and even easier to live with.
Thanks and have a good day
@chymez_me (186)
• Philippines
16 May 12
That's really a very dramatic one..It's as if it's straight from a movie.. I feel sorry for the guy cause he was cheated upon yet he's still willing to give her another chance which she didn't take.. :
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello chymez,
Indeed a good script for a movie.
I feel sorry for my friend too.
He loves his wife that much and yet- she's too ,maybe fool-whatever.
I just hope my friend learned a lot from this and wish that his wife will realized how much she lost.
thanks and have a good day
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
16 May 12
This is a good idea for a movie script, indeed. But seriously, your friend is a martyr. Accepting his wife and the child of another man is a brave move on his part. It is just sad that the girl love the one he marries in gulf and would want to leave your friend now. Tragic if I may say that. I hope your friend is okay.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
16 May 12
hello lady,
I agree, my friend is a real martyr.
His wife left and it's been a year.
He says he is still hoping that his wife will come back and they can start all over again.
I did not ask any more details- as I want to respect his feelings and I am not in any position to judge him either.
Love really works in mysterious ways- that's how great love is.
Thanks and have a good day
