How Do You Feel About Having To Conform?
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4605)
United States
May 25, 2012 6:00pm CST
i don't work anymore because of my illness. don't get me wrong, that is not a good thing. the good thing is that i work for myself now. i don't have to get up everyday and conform to societies mundane norms. i don't have to dress up in clothes that i wouldn't normally wear just to try to fight hundreds for a job that none of us really want. i never wanted to be the business suit wearing type. i never admired that as the way to be when i grew up. those type of conservative conformist business looking people make me nervous in a bad way. i am nervous because i am turned off by them. don't get me wrong. i have met some that are really nice and non judgmental. some of them even seem like they wish they could break out of the chains that bind them. i wouldn't do well in the world out there. i tried and it almost killed me. that may not be so, for alot of people. alot of people like to be busy for causes created by other people. some people like the mundane routines, and the monkey suits. there are many who wouldn't know what to do if they didn't have a certain amount of rules to live their lives by from society. other like me, it's killing to the spirit. i also am aware that you have to conform to somethings sometimes. that's okay with me, as long as i am in the drivers seat. which one is it for you. do you like having to conform.
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@celticeagle (189874)
• Boise, Idaho
26 May 12
I no longer work either due to my illness. We all have our ways of doing things. I didn't do well in the world out there either. My job was complex and so many young people coming in that caught on immediately to all the complexities of the work that I knew my days were probably numbered anyway. With the stress from trying to manage a life of bi-polar kids, work, and relationships I just got to a point where I couldn't do it anymore. First I tried taking time off, work release and then finally I was given a early retirement. After only working there for five years I got a small pension for life. So I made out pretty well. I also got on Social Security quickly too. I do understand what you are saying about conforming to societies norms. I always hated it. Having to feel like I was pretending to be something I wasn't because I had to go by the company I was working fors rules. Mundane rules and monkey suits were never for me. So no, I don't like to conform.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
5 Jun 12
thank you for being so honest. i surely didn't do to well out there. i tried and it only made me sicker. it took time away from me trying to get help with my mental illness. i felt so bad and guilty cause i just couldn't fit in out there. thank you so much for sharing your point of view.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
26 May 12
I've never understood why people all want to be exactly alike or very similar to one another. I've never been good at fitting it, nor at pretending I do. And I've never wanted to. I like to be in control of my life, which is one of the reasons I started to look for ways to make money online and work for myself. I don't want to have to play a role in society that I feel morally bad about.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
26 May 12
i don't want to do anything that is morally bad, or that is killing to the spirit every day.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
26 May 12
I think no one like to conform to something that he/she does not like. But if we have to work to earn, we have to follow a set of rules, whether we like it or not. Having to wear an uniform or a certain type of attire is a minor issue compared to the type of work we have to do and yet we don't like to do. I would like to be the one who gives orders rather than the one who receives orders but that is not something I can have it whenever I want it. Yes, I am in the rat race. I have to do that to make sure my family is fed and sheltered. I have to work to make sure my children can obtain the highest education they can get. I hope I can be free from all of it one day and enjoy what little time left for my life.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
5 Jun 12
you say that is what you must do and i understand that. but, it has nothing to do with what you would like to do. you didn't express that part until the end. the rat race is just a stepping stone. i hope that one day you get out of it. more importantly, i hope that one day you become deprogrammed from it.
