cohabitation: would you go for it?

Philippines
December 17, 2006 2:21am CST
Cohabitation is a situation in which a couple who are not married live together. Cohabitation is on the increase especially in the west. Cohabitation has broad effects on the couples themselves, their offspring, to the social spectrum, and to the respective rights of the fathers, mothers, and children (not to mention the strong opposition of the religious sector). To illustrate, absence the sanction of marriage, it’s hard to draw up commitments and to enforce the responsibilities of the father to his children in case of separation. More so, separation of cohabitees adversely affects the child’s association of his kinship and lineage. Also, in a harsh society, a child out of cohabitation is likely to be teased and alienated. In addition, one can always deny fatherhood over a child, in order to walk off with the legal obligation to support. Furthermore, cohabitation makes accentuating the rights of the cohabitees difficult. The likelihood of cheating of either party is so big, yet accountability is not clearly drawn unlike in marriages where responsibility and consequences are evidently established. Marriage lays down the rights of the spouses and provides for explicit means to redress such rights. Punishment in terms of imprisonment is available for offenses against marriage, while these are not provided for in cohabitation. Fidelity and loyalty are thus stiff to haul out in cohabitation. Despite all of these downsides, cohabitation or living in, is still gaining popularity. Just about, people who favor cohabitation find it more suitable than marriage. It serves as the avenue to try relationships with someone, a trial and error program, where they can just end the relationship anytime they want to without the complicated legalities and technicalities and thus saves them from getting hooked forever to the wrong person!!
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• United States
25 Jan 08
Sure I'd go for it. I was going for it until we married and the ONLY reason we married is because my insurance through work is better than his and he needed surgery for a torn ligament in his knee. Had that have not been the case, we were content with living together. We bought a home together and live with each other, and if it ain't broke, don't fix it!
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@zichen3 (132)
• China
22 Dec 07
I do think I will go for it. I do not like to live with someone just a friend, I much prefer live my close relatives to the friends. On the other hand,If I go for it, I think my father and mother will kill me. They are conservative. And they told me, never trust the honeyed words when you are not mature, maybe they are kidding you. They said that love is a kind of fate, you need to trust the fate, not honeyed words. In China, there a lot of people choose cohabitation to make sure the love offair. I think that is not fair to a girl, ineffable that the girl is open that cohabitation with someone, when they will break, the girl suffered lots of pain.
• India
15 Sep 08
never, never, and never.
• United States
10 Dec 07
In 2004 there were 5,080,000 unmarried couples in America. Most younger Americans now spend some time living together outside of marriage. Over half of all first marriages are now preceded by living together, compared to virtually none 50 years ago. Between 1960 and 2004, the number of unmarried couples in America increased by over 1200% About a quarter of unmarried women age 25 to 39 are currently living with a partner and an additional quarter have lived with a partner at some time in the past.
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• Philippines
31 Jan 08
No I do not want to agree with cohabitation. When people cohabit, they are binding themselves into a relationship with no real assurance of who will be committing. They should commit themselves into marriage even before they live together.
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
I think it has good points and bad. It lets you get to know each other without the legalities. If the two can't get along, then they just split up. If the two end up having kids, then it gets a little messier. The two parties involved should take care of the child and put his/her best interests before themselves.
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
31 Jan 08
I lived with my husband before we got married and I am personally all for living together before you get married. As for just living with some one with no intention of getting married no I don't agree with that for 1 big reason and thats religion. I don't agree with you saying that cheating is more of a posibality because you don't have a paper saying you married. If some one is going to cheat it is going to happen married or not. I don't think that kids will be teased because there parents aren't married. It happens ALL the time. Just because you weren't married when a child was born doesn't mean that you can deny your child and not have any legal obligation to them. That is what a DNA test is for. A relationship not just marriage lay down the "rules of the relationship". Maybe I am understanding this whole question wrong, but in todays world - people that aren't married live together all the time, kids are born out of wedlock every day, and people cheat on there partner/spouse often. Its the way the world works now.
• Philippines
5 Feb 08
Cohabitation? I won't go for it though it works to some practical people. :) I still dream of getting married prior to living together as husband and wife. :)