If you stay away from beloved one for a long time, will bonding remain the same
By alienstar
@alienstar (5144)
India
7 responses
@dholey (1383)
• India
22 Dec 06
"Out of site is out of mind" , i have experienced it many times, though the relationship is still the same but one starts learning how to live without THE person, i also believe on ADAPTATION, time teaches you every thing, it is painful for a period to be fr from close one , so day by day the person goes away from the mind too, the relation may be the same but after time passes you get some other person to hang with, and your beloved gets other person too, it is a natural phenomenon so keep in touch with your beloved ones and always remind your existence , that is the best solution for the scene.
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@alienstar (5144)
• India
22 Dec 06
You have really put everything in a beautiful way and one should agree to your views here and i also do belive that theer should be any very very long gap between relationships or anybondings between closed one's Atleast, if you keep in touch once in a while, it will be very good and might also result in making your bonding stronger isn't it? So, as you said, it's alway's better to keep in touch with your beloved on'e atleast once in a while and remind your existance....
Anyway's, thanks for responding
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
It all depends on the ones involved. Some couples when separated from each other for a long time and then reunite become more romantic, become more intimate with each other. Like what they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". But some couple totally lose it. They become strangers again. This may not be permanent. It could only be because they're starting again. It's all up to you if you want to bring back the same treatment. The same intimacy.
@alienstar (5144)
• India
2 Jan 07
Yes..i also know that line, "Ansense makes the heart grow fonder" but again, here you should understand the absense term as this absense maynot be for too long.If it is for too long,then definitely it willl have adverse effect to your relationship and infact your bonding might also fade with time for sure....
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@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
24 Dec 06
it will have to depend on how much you really love each other...if the love is strong, then i will say that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'....but if it's just some infatuation/crush..then it will be 'out of sight, out of mind'.
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@alienstar (5144)
• India
25 Dec 06
I definitely don't agree to your view here.According to me, how much ever strong your love might be, if the gap between two people is to long without keeping in touch, thenthis boding is definite to lose its strength for sure.....your statement of "Absense makes the heart grow fonder" will hold good if th egap is not to long or if you keep in contact in between.....
Anyway's, thanks for responding
@caraj444 (1075)
• Canada
24 Dec 06
i think that it can really go either way, some bonds are unbreakable and you will think of the person while you are away from them and miss them and others are not as strong and as time goes on you will think of the person less and less. Ive had it go both ways just in personal experience, i dont think you can know until your in the situation and going through it whether your relationship will survive or not.
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@alienstar (5144)
• India
25 Dec 06
Do you mean to say that some bonds are really unbreakable under any cirucmstances? but, i don't agree with this...if the gap is too much, then it is breakable for sure.Consider a relationship with 5-6 years gap in between with no contact between each others...definitely after this long gap, this bonding is bound to break or loosen for sure..
Anyway's, thanks for responding
@anonvenu (401)
• India
23 Dec 06
Most people presume that staying afar estranges a couple, but it has been my experience that the bonding between us strengthens when ever either of us stays away from home for some time.
Off ocurse I am not suggesting that we both like being apart, but when we both get back to each other afer a short seperation, we notice a new level of bonding between us!
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@alienstar (5144)
• India
23 Dec 06
I can agree to your view to some extent only as i think, if your seperation is for a long time, your bonding will reduce with time for sure.If you make sure that you meet up atleast once in awhile, it's fine and in that case, your bonding will be strong as you said...but, if you stay away from each other for a long time, then even your thinking towards each other and realtionship etc.....starts sliding downwards ..don't you think so...anyhow, it is only my view
Anyway's, thanks for responding
@alienstar (5144)
• India
25 Dec 06
This staement might be truse if the disctance is not too long and the gap is also not too long but if it is teh opposite case, that distance is also long and even gap is also long, then bonding might reduce in coming day's for sure..
Anyway's, thanks for responding
@sunflowergirl (3064)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Dec 06
well i had the smillar discussion ....chek out mine..n plz start being orignal!
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@alienstar (5144)
• India
23 Dec 06
I saw your discussion and it seems that you also have started somewhat similar topic and it didn't appear in my search results as you have started with different wordings isn't it? anyhow, i never saw your discussion and started mine as i never do this...
Anyway's, thanks for responding
