Why One Ready To Become A Mistress To A Married Man?
@aryangentleman (1122)
India
December 28, 2006 3:26am CST
This is a real incident and it concern one of the colleague of my wife. This colleague use to work with my wife and now she is abroad doing a job. She was in communication with a man for last 5 years(I dont know how they came in contact with each other) and she was in love with him and he had promised her to marry her one day. He told her he is not married and after Trade center was blown off,from where he was running his business, he came back to India and was in financial trouble.He asked my wife's colleague that she should not wait for him as he has to start his life all again but she refused to give up on his man (both use to meet each other and spend time whenever he use to visit India in past and this time he came back here too the city we are living)About a year ago She was shocked to learn that He is married and also he is having a 3 year son. She cried a lot and virtually she went into depression(it's when my wife confided this to me ) Later I came to know he came up with lots of excuses and said he will be getting a divorce form his wife and she should give him a chance. My wife asked me for an advice and I told her ask your's colleague to forget it as a night mare and move on with her life and one day we came to know she going abroad as she got a nice offer and she going to start afresh. We all were happy for her. Now comes the part which I could never realy understand, she visited India in her Christmas holidays and informed my wife that she has restarted her relationship with that man and she loves him so much that she dont care any more if he gets a divorce or not. My wife was horrified and to some extent I was too as I never thought Her love for Him is so addictive that she ignored his cheating her and now she is living as a mistress to him and he living a parallel life! I just narrated you all this incident and I realy could never come up with reason for this behaviour. I am not being judgmental on Her but still this area of human emotions I could never fathom. Can anybody explain it to me?
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@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
28 Dec 06
we as the 3rd party may think that she's being stupid and dumb for choosing this road..but believe me, my friend, sometimes when you are in her shoe, you may choose the same too...i have to say that married men really have a way with women...i was in her situation once...and i was stuck for 4 years..then he got too possessive that i lose myself in the process...it's true when they say that love is blind...
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
31 Dec 06
I always thought that i knew almost every thing about women and relationship and I can explain and define to poeple but I must admit I never understood this or rather woman in her situation. Yes that man must be som eon ewho can lie and then get away with that and she so blinded in love that she choose to be some one willingly settling herself in the back yard. Falling in love with some one who is married is different story all togather but clinging to some one who lied to you and who despite promising marriage never held on his promise, may be he knew that she some one who loved to be slaved and who could never over come him. What ever it is She some one I could never reason with.
@SONALIKA (573)
• India
29 Jan 07
aryan u won't be able to understand this being a man.being in love means to give without expectations.what do understand by marriage, to me it is commitment n giving away urself completly like mira did for krishna. women do become mira even these days but men n society call them "mistress". that's the difference
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
30 Jan 07
@Sonalinka.....I know what loving is and I also know that in love one do fall in selflesly. Can you explain then what mistress means to you? You might have taken mine saying Mistress to her as as an offence but certainly I know to me its not an offensive word in her context. So you better clear that in your mind and I am talking about some one who is known to me and I am trying to find some rational explaintion for it not judging her.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
It is easy for us on this side to wonder how she could possibly do something of this nature, however I don't think we can ever fully understand a person. We don't know how they really think or feel. In my opinion she probably does have low self esteem but I feel in the long run she will only get more pain and hurt from this situation not to mention the others involved. I don't know why she would do such a thing, and perhaps she doesn't fully understand it either. Sometimes we just let our emotions take control of our lives and don't stop to think about the consequences of our actions.
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
25 Jan 07
I dont understand it and I am not being judgmental about her but there are areas in human emotions which still out of grasp to me. Its right or wrong or she will be happy or not I dont know but certainly she went on willingly into this situation so I guess she bended herself to engulf into it. Only the person who been into this situation can make an effort to clear the cobweb in this regard.
