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 I'm from Australia. I'm a single mother with a 6y0 daughter. I currently have court orders in place for my daughter to have access visits with her dad. The relationship that I have with her dad is not amicable at all but I have never stopped my daughter seeing her father.
Anyway, just before xmas he asked if he could go on an overseas holiday with her in the school holidays. I only agreed to this if I received a full itinerary of his holiday so that I would know where my daughter was.
He provided me with an itinerary and told me that he has arranged it so that his mobile phone had international roaming and I would be able to contact him at any time.
Anyway, I've tried to send my daughter a couple of messages and tried to ring on the mobile, but he constantly has it switched off. I also called the place he was meant to be staying at in Holland and he has no reservation at all there.
He has given me a fake itinerary (obviously) so that I would let him take my daughter overseas on holidays and now I have absolutely no idea where my daughter is! What should I do?? He's not due back until 10th Jan.
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1.  tigrashadow (788) | 2 years ago |  unfortunately hon you may have to wait till he gets home...otherwise maybe call legal aid or something to see if they know a course of action you can take...they have more ability to help and the resources and knowledge to provide good advice or they may also say wait till they due home....
im assuming your ex is an australian citizen so cant overstay his visa anyway without getting in trouble
i wish you good luck and a good outcome...
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 missytia (230) | 2 years ago | thank you for your suggestions. I currently do have a solicitor as he's had me in and out of court for the past 3 yrs so it's cost a lot of money. But I feel there is nothing I can do, as orders state that his access finishes on 10th Jan, and as long as she's back by then, there is nothing to do :( | |
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| tigrashadow (788) | 2 years ago | my friend had the same concerns when she let her son go with his dad to bali..but at least he didnt bullsh*t bout where he took him even though hes a lowlife...
i thought u might have to wait and see..then they can take action...try to keep positive even with so many negatives against u...
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| tigrashadow (788) | 2 years ago | oh and dont forget to let us know on or after the 10th how things went
thanks
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| missytia (230) | 2 years ago | I sure will. All I can do is wait until they're meant to be back and go from there. The police won't do anything until then anyway coz of the court orders in place. Also, the airline wouldn't tell me anything coz i didn't have a booking number, just the flight number..... something to do with security????
so, all I can do is wait. | |
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| 2. apostrofy (553) | 2 years ago |  report it to the police. u've agreed to let u'r daughter with him under some conditions wich have been completly broken. if she is in u'r custody then i think u can report him for kidnaping. i'm not very sure how the laws are in australia, but police station is definetly the place to go and find out what u can do next. they can help u and can give u advices. don't wait until when he is supposed to be back with u'r daughter. he broke the rules and gave false information. even if he has rights to visit his daughter he still needs u'r agreement to take her out of the country (or at least this is what i know).
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| missytia (230) | 2 years ago | If there are court orders in place, unfortunately the police won't do anything until after 10th Jan. | |
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| apostrofy (553) | 2 years ago | the court orders allow him to visit her or also to take her overseas? coz in my country i know for a fact that the father of the child needs written permission from the mother to take the child out of the country. anyway if only in 10 u can see the result of this trip than keep praying everything is ok and that this could just be a big missunderstanding. blesses to u and u'r daughter. | |
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| missytia (230) | 2 years ago | Yes, here in Australia, permission needs to be granted by the other parent for overseas travel. Our court orders also don't say anything about international travel. It just worries me that I have given permission but from false information. | |
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| countrygirlny (487) | 2 years ago |  I agree with reporting it to the police!! In my opinion that is Kidnapping. I would be scared also in not knowing where my daughter is. I was never blessed with children, but I can sympathize with you.
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| 3. kathy77 (6951) | 2 years ago |  Hi I am from Australia as well, oh no I would not allow my children to go overseas with my children and I do not suggest that you allow this to happen., oh dear you did let your daughter go and now you are having big troubles, I think that you best contact the immigration and see what you can do this is dreadful I wish you luck in whatever way you have to go about dealing with this problem.
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| missytia (230) | 2 years ago | my initial thought was to not let her go, but I'm trying to be agreeable for my daughter's sake as she loves her dad. He won't harm her. I just hate being deceived. | |
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| 4. lilaclady (14400) | 2 years ago |  OMG what a worry, I feel for you, I guess you have to just hope at this point that he is doing the right thing...I hope so much that it is ok for you...
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| 5. Marie2473 (5352) | 2 years ago |  I think that no matter how hard it is you have to wait until the 10th of january before doing anything. after that if she is not back then it is time to contact the police and charge him with kidnapping. Also when he gets back, hae him explain what the H*ll he´s been and why he tricked you!
Good luck!
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6.  paul8675 (715) | 2 years ago |  Similar advice to the first person I read. If she is home with you on the 10th, let it go, but if she does not turn up after that, seek legal aid. In the mean time, try not to worry.
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| 7. soldenski (1664) | 2 years ago |  I would not have let her go with him oversea's. I probably would not let him see her without supervision. That is one of the thing's that I am afraid of, if I get divorced. That my husband tries to take my son from me. Right now he is small and cries if I am not around him. My husband took him camping, (over night) and my son cried and cried saying he missed me too much, so my husband had to cut the trip short and bring him home.
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| 8. max1950 (333) | 2 years ago |  i wouldn't wait around to see if he comes back on the 10th here in the u.s. after 48hrs its kidnapping, i'd go directly to the f.b.i. or whatever you have down under and file a complaint.immediatly!!!!!!i'm a male and if my wife who i great along great with did it and i couldn't find my child all hell would break loose.I don't mean to be mean but wake up.your in australia he's in europe come on.take him down
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| adurham77 (3) | 2 years ago | I agree. Why lie to you about what they are going to do. He has a reason for wanting to deceive you whether it is simply to make you upset or something else. Courts don't look kindly on parents that intentionally do mean things to the other parent. I would defenately file for full custody of your child so that this can never happen again. | |
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| 10. againdrama (2316) | 2 years ago |  Thats sad. I can tell your worried. But just wait till the 10th and if has not came back then call the cops. But if they do then ask him why he would not have ANY contact with you at all.
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| saivin (26) | 2 years ago |  I can imagine what tense you must be but please wait till he returns by 10thJan'07 and positively I feel he will come with your daughter safely.
Some revenge some ego he must be satisfying himself by not letting you to contact with your daughter.Wait patiently and accept cooly when he come home and ignore him in future and inform to your daughter as your friend about his behaviour so that your daughter can judge who is the best responsible parent.
Otherwise other options are always open to aggrevate the situation further.
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