in-law

@riyasam (16556)
India
January 8, 2007 7:03am CST
how to react when mom in law scolds and your husband doesnt side with you?
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8 responses
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
9 Jan 07
I know how you feel as I end up getting quite upset with my other half when he doesn't stick up for me. Or is on someone else's side. For me I have always been there to support him, but also stand up for him. And I believe both partners should act in this manner when it comes to being in a relationship. Have you ever tried sitting down with him & discussing with him how what he does hurts you? And if you have how did he react? I think if you haven't talked to him already you need to sit down with him & express to him how you feel about this. I've always believed that a relationship is supposed to be a partnership. Two people looking out for each other every step of the way. To me a guy should be willing to protect the women he loves. Especially when someone on his side of the family is attacking you. He should be right there.. Front & center telling them to back off or at least saying something to show that he is on your side & is there to support you. I'd talk to him about how you may be feeling. If he isn't willing to listen to how you feel then you may need to question if this is meant to be. I know I've done that several times when my other half hasn't stuck up for me. If anything it makes you feel really crummy about yourself because the person isn't willing to stick up for you. If you end up discussing with him how you feel try to keep us updated. As I'd like to know what ends up happening. That is if you feel comfortable. I wish you all the best!
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I would get on him about it. He will definely hear it from me.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
15 Jan 07
I am in the samer boat and have stopped communicating wioth both of them, whatr else can I do if I am misunderstood everytime. I have tried to point it out to him through du=iscussions but it never helps. they have a strong bond so be it. I have left them both to their own talks and now don't pay any attention to what eiyther of them say.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
27 Feb 07
My husband would suffere great consequences if he did side with me and set his Mother straight right away. I was fortunate enough to have a mother-in-law who did not butt in our lives and never said an unkind word to me about anything.
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Sounds like your husband is a little wimpy. It's good to respect your parents but once you marry, your spouse is suppose to come first. I wouldn't put up with it myself. He would either have to change or I would be gone.
• India
12 Jan 07
Don't go to back answer. Try to win your mom in law's heart, by spending more time with her.
@shorva (923)
• Philippines
8 Jan 07
id feel bad if my hubby lets my inlaw that he's on her side!!!it's ok if he goes with my inlaw's side as long as he won't let them know or pretend that he's in between.
@igreen (94)
• India
9 Jan 07
I will make the decision that will do what to do