women are naturally attention seekers  

Yes, it is very natural for us women loving attention. And sometimes it is not all about attention. We just like to talk and express our feelings to our spouses and boyfriends. We like to know what is on their minds and be open. My husband knows that for a fact! When I feel like talking he will listen, and I will ask him questions to see if he is actually letting it go in one ear and out of the other!

Yeah, I am an attention seeker too. I always want my boyfriend to have time for me or else we have to argue. But it is not a long distance relationship. Our school is just a few blocks away from each other. We always see each other but I still want to be with him more.

I don't know if we have the need for attention so much as we have the need to communicate and know that our bf/spouse wants to hear what's on our minds. We desire our loved one to value us and our thoughts and feelings.

We also need to remember that men do not have the need to communicate the way that we do. They don't need to talk and express themselves the way that women do. If we want them to respect our desire to be heard, then we need to respect their desire for quiet. It's give and take - you need to respect his needs and he needs to respect your needs.

I have to have everyone in the rooms attention, or I get cranky. I'm not sure if that's a woman thing, but I know for a fact it's a ME thing.

yeah i do belive that we are attentionseekers by nature. But i also know that my bf would get irritated if I talked to him on the phone and at the same time chatted to someone else =) That would really piss him off =)

yes...any body will be there...I think for to complete conversation brain shud be centered to one matter at a time.

I also if talks with anybody I prefer next shud be concentrate on me.

its good habit ..i like it...

I do not think women are generally attention seekers. Your situation is not a case of attention seeking but being considerate or not on your spouse or boyfriend during that small time you are communicating with each other. Interracial relationships such as yours will have this kind of misunderstandings because of different outlook on different things. And it so unfair to women to be branded as attention seekers in cases like this.

I will be irritated too if this was done to me.

Not wanting to make excuses, but wanting to be understood.. Hehe. I fully understand your issues with me on the phone at times, but that is not enough facts to make it fully understandable. I work full time, and then do chores, cook, have dinner and so, and after that the time is usually 9 or so pm. And my best friend, who is the most frequent caller, hehe, lives 250 kms away from me, so we rarely get to see eachother, making phonecalls the easiest way to hook up. But basically I try to give my spare time in the evening to my bebe, being online til i have to sleep, but obviously sometimes I have to spend time on others too. I had friends before we met, and those will be there even after mary anne and I have become married, so I think I should try to be there for them too. I guess my big reason to picking up the calls is that I HATE so called friends who when entering relationships seem to forget all the people around them except for their partner. I find that so rude and I´d hate to become one of those. But, as my wife to be said, we have resolved our issues, and ,m y biggest wish (after being with her..) is that the day had 40 hours, if so I could have the time for all the lovely people in my life.. Mahal kita irogko.

well, i think its certainly natural especially if the only time you get to spend and have that attention from your boyfriend is when you are online.:P

I feel the way you feel but we have agreed a long time ago when we started on our relationship, that we talked online it was just the two of us. It wasnt really a verbal agreement but it just was. We dont do any surfing while chatting or only talked on the phone when there is an important phoen call.

I am or more like was the attention seeker when i started in our relationship too. I felt left out when my boyfriend was with friends and not with me.I get annoyed when he fail to text me when he is out and not online. I get edgy when i dont get to talk to him much online because he is busy at work, or has some visitors.:P Lol but i have learned my ways and he has too. Too much of that attention seeking can come out the wrong way as well. you know what i mean..:)