How can I get through this pain??

United States
January 13, 2007 6:45am CST
So here's the situation. I was going out with a guy for a few months and I fell in love with him. I really truly loved him, and one day he just decided to break up with me. Obviously, getting through a break up is not easy. But I think I need serious help. Going to bed at night is a challenge not to drown myself with all the tears. And every morning I wake up I feel sick to my stomach once I remember that we are not together anymore. I keep picturing him with someone else, and it just kills me. I have no idea what to do to get through this pain. I keep telling myself that I will eventually move on, as I have in the past, but it doesn't make it any easier. Are there any suggestions to take away even one ounce of pain? Responses are greatly appreciated. Thankyou so much for listening.
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Ashida
@Ashida (1370)
• United States
14 Jan 07
That's a tough question. I wish there was an easy answer for it. In my experience though, the pain goes away on its own. it takes time, and it's miserable while you're waiting for it to go away. But it does go away -- I promise it does. One thing I would do is stay busy. Of course in the back of your mind you might still be thinking about it, but it makes things a bit easier. Just remember what you're feeling is a natural part of the circle of life. My grandma would always say, this too shall pass. And she was right. I'd also say that the other person is the one losing out, and if they don't want to be with you, they are the one missing out. If he doesn't appreciate you and see just how great you are, then he's not worth your time, you know? Just have faith and know that this too shall pass.
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chaselee
@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
Its not easy to move on. But you can start going out with friends and helping yourself recover from the break up. As much as possible stop thinking about him with other girls. You're just going to make it even harder for you to move on.
howard96h
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
9 Feb 07
"Time heals all wounds." I know you don't want to hear that now because of the pain your feeling but what caused the breakup? Was there a fight about something? I do think you should speak with one of your close girlfriends and not hold in all these feelings. This helps alot. Stay strong.