How would you handle a racist parent if you were having a mixed child?

I would leave my mom alone and go to others for support like the guys parents for the time being. after the baby is born be sure to send the racist mom pictures of the baby. HOW CAN YOU DENY any baby? little own your blood? maybe once she sees her grandbaby she will apoligize and realize that skin color doesn't matter at all. all that matters is that the love for that her daughter and that baby is unconditional. And she might even regret not being there for her daughter when she needed her.

Wow... That is really tough. I have 3 mixed children, though I'm no longer with my ex. No one in my family said any racist comments to me. On my dad's side of the family, I'm sure they made some behind my back because most of them are white trash, and since they're related to me, I can say that freely. I don't have a relationship with that side though. The most I've heard from them lately was "Do they even have the same dad?" Which yes they do, but they didn't even come to me to ask me that, my Mom heard it and was the one who answered it. Anyway, getting off track.

I know that she probably wants her Mom with her but if her Mom is saying stuff like that, I think she should not bother calling her Mom right now. If the guys family is nice and accepts the situation, then try to get help from them, emotional or otherwise. Your friend will have a full plate with raising a newborn and doesn't need the extra stress of her mother saying crap like that. Now hopefully her Mom will realize she's being over the top and accept her daughter, her daughters choices, and her new grandchild as they are.

It's a hard situation overall... our family should love us, regardless of what choices they make. Plus if her Mom is being a racist parents, who knows if she'd ever say anything to the child about them being mixed later on? It could turn out being that your friend and the child will be better off without the Mom...though it would be painful.