Weddings, is the expense worth it?  |
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|  In Australia, couples often have big weddings. Not only the reception, but the bride's dress, bridesmaids' dresses, wedding cake, wedding cars, party favours - and don't forget the wedding stationery, make up and hairdos for the females, flowers, etc.
Do you think the expense and stress of planning a wedding is worth all the effort for just one day?
Though my father always said he'd give me the money that he could spend for the wedding and just have a small one, when it came to the crunch he wanted all his friends and family and I had a huge wedding (small by some standards - especially Italian backgrounds like ours - 230 people. LOL) In retrospect, I'm glad I had a large wedding.
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1.  puma_nz (865)
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6 years ago
| |  Nice one! and Congrats to you :).. Im havin a very SMALL one at home.. Im not one to go all out with the Dresses and Flowers etc.. Im only having 2 people plus the Minister and my Children.. It'll probably be formal but not Wedding Attire Formal.. if ya know what I mean.. However I will be having a HANGI (Food Cooked Underground) or a PIG on the SPIT.
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| puma_nz (865)
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6 years ago
| | all up it'll cost me just over $1000.00 | | | |
 lilaclady (22662)
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6 years ago
| |  you sound like wise wise Kiwi, I always knew the NZers were smart...:)
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| puma_nz (865)
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6 years ago
| | hahaha thankyou lilaclady :) | | | |
 lpetges (2311)
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6 years ago
| |  you are one smart bride. All that money for a party-crazy. i'm speaking as the parent of a groom. The bar bill was over 10,000 alone. then the rehearsal dinner, then the shower that we threw. It set us back quite a bit. They could have had a big down payment on a home for the price of their wedding. we only paid a quarter of the whole thing. be smart, it might seem important to impress all of your family and friends-but i guarentee that after that day, none of them really and truly care about your day execept for you.
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| tigrashadow (785)
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6 years ago
| |  ooohhhhhhhh yummo hangis are wicked....well i went to an aussie version of one that a few ppl from nz had organized but it was still great
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| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | Hey Puma, it sounds perfect! ANd Yummy :)
$10000 for the bar bill??? What were they drinking? And how many armies? Of course if they all drank Chateau D'Yquem...
As much as I loved my wedding, a large deposit on a new home would have been better :)
Thanks for posting everyone. | | | |
| puma_nz (865)
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6 years ago
| | Hiya Bunny..
Nah thats how much it'll cost for the whole SHA-Bang! Everything but the Kitchen sink.. LOL As I said there will only be a few.. My dress isnt great but its me.. :) | | | |
| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | And I bet you'll look and feel gorgeous! I wish you a wonderful day and a happy life together. | | | |
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| 2. lilaclady (22662)
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6 years ago
| | No I think it is a waste of money, like funerals everything is over priced because they know people will pay for it. I think people should get back to the basics, in having a nice simple romantic wedding just with the closest of friends and relatives, I believe being with the one you love and having a simple magic moment should be all it is about....not to put on a show. | | | | | | |
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| 3. infobyaj36 (555)
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6 years ago
| |  My wedding day was one of the best days of my life and worth every penny. I am sure you can relate. I know they say a big wedding is for the bride but it is also in the top 5 best days for my husband also.
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| 4. ossie16d (6321)
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6 years ago
| |  Like you we had the whole shebang Bunny but it was also in 1970 when that was how things were done. However I cannot say that either of us actually enjoyed our wedding day as there was just so much that had to be done. At the same time I wouldn't have wanted to be married without all the finery, although we could have cut the numbers down by not inviting all the rellies who I never say anyway. LOL
However since that time it has also become much more expensive and that even includes allowing for inflation. We have been to wedding where they have had everything and it has cost an absolute fortune but others which were just as nice and cost so little. The son of friends got married a couple of years ago and because of circumstances they were paying for the wedding themselves, so decided to keep it low key. Well, the Church congregation the bride and groom belong to offered to put on finger food etc for the Wedding Breakfast. A friend offered to make the Wedding Cake and someone else iced it. The bride got her wedding gown through eBay for chicken feed (cost less than $100), someone took the photos and another person did a video, flowers were done by friends and all of these things were wedding gifts for the happy couple. It was a wonderful day and in total cost the bride and groom less than $500 for their special day, and they had about 100 guests.
Now I think that is the way to do it and it was truly magical for everyone who attended. I just wish more wedding were like that actually, as everyone is much more relaxed. :)
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| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | I think I forgot to mention that we don't have any family in Australia other than a cousin of my father's. So it was all friends - but many were like cousins as I'd grown up with them and their parents were like my uncles and aunts. You wedding sounds perfect too. But your friends' wedding sounds wonderful,. It's amazing what people can achieve for little. $500 wouldn't cover the drinks for some weddings (see an earlier post that said the bar bill was 410,000!!) | | | |
| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | Ooops That was supposed to be $10,000 | | | |
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| 5. dangermouse (1988)
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6 years ago
| |  It all comes down to if you think it was worth spending the money, we had a really small wedding not because of the money but that is what we wanted. We wanted it to be remembered for the day not how much the cake cost!
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6.  imakella (652)
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6 years ago
| | i think it is correct...
well u had gathered so many and night be enjoyed well...
i too do like that .. | | | | | | |
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| 7. pooksywooksy (733)
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6 years ago
| |  In Indonesia, when you are rich and famous to some standard; they would go for a big wedding (like 1000 invitations - note that 1 invitation is for 2 people, usually). When you are not really that rich but you know some well known people, you would definetely wanna make big wedding.
Sometimes, some of the guests are not even known by the couple who gets married, but they are probably important people. Just because the idea of getting back all the expense of one day wedding is almost possible!
Some people even think a wedding as a business, because they could even get more than what they spend for that big day. In this case, I guess all the expense for the wedding is really worth it!
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| 8. toonatoons (2739)
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6 years ago
| |  it's pretty expensive when you get married these days. but for me, when i get married, i'd like to keep it very simple. the ceremony will be very simply but very meaningful, no entourage, minimal decors (maybe just some flowers at the altar), no invitations (we'll personally invite the guests, or write the invitation down on a nice piece of stationary). i think we'd be able to spend a bit more on food, though, but i guess, the expenses will be a lot less with this kind of arrangement. what do you think? is it too simple this way? or is it really important to be grandious about it --- invites, gowns, etc...?
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| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | What you've described souns absolutely lovely. And is it necessary to spend all that money on gowns and extras? Well, it is if you want it that way. But if you don't - then go with your heart. I guarantee you won't regret it. | | | |
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| 9. tocika (774)
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6 years ago
| |  In this year I would get married,but I would do a small one with closer friends and with our familys,I want something very intim and I hope that will be better.
A wedding means money,but is more than that,you have to say the nice part,a wedding is love is party ...
I hope that I will have a nice wedding!
Have a nice day!
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| Bunny2 (1124)
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6 years ago
| | I hope you have a wonderful day with the party of your dreams. | | | |
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10.  rms2727 (770)
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6 years ago
| |  i think its not about spending just for a day but because we like to celebrate and welcome a new pahse of life that is gettitng into the family start. rest if one can afford it why not have all the splendor in ones wedding, and if not even the small ones can be very great. more than the number of people its the kind of experience you enjoy.
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