understanding women
By izeman
@izeman (3)
Philippines
February 7, 2007 11:48am CST
why is it so difficult to understand what women wants. when a woman says no she means yes when she says yes she means no.why cant women just say whatever they want to say?that's the big question men always have to answer.one of my friends says that and i quote "we are not psychics or have ESP to know what they want to tell us".so WHY????????????
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@ag_abscruzmd (2282)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Well, I guess women want to be assured. If they feel insecure or are questioning the guy's motives, then women try to delay the process. They need more proof! It's part of a defense mechanism to avoid getting hurt. Do you know about women's intuition? They use it all the time, especially on those with a history of cheating on their past relationships. Women would also tend to be suspicious all the time because of this. So, now that you know, be very patient. If you really like someone, and your intentions are clean, she's bound to know. Welcome to myLot!
@pacoruiz26 (5)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I don´t agree with this. Tests are just not right when you love someone, you dont test a person you love. That is exactly why there is a phase just before marriage of being boyfriend-girlfriend, to get to know the person better and see if things will work out in the long run. If you get well amongst other things, then you can take the big step and get married, once you get to know better the other person and see if during boyfriend-girlfriend relationship things go ok. If girls or boys test each other before being in a more serious relationship that is just not right because there is NO COMMITMENT,,,,instead of testing on purpose, live life normally and see if you cope together once you are boyfriend-gilrfriend. I want some advice on this please.....can a relationship work if women are mistrustful, testing, suspicious all the time? If a person genuinly wants to have her as girlfriend, and her doing this, somehow, no matter how dumb he is, he is going to suspect also that she is suspicious and mistrustful and he doesnt want that in a relation because it is bound not to be true love and break sooner or later. I think this is specially true if a guy wants a woman to be his girlfriend and she doesnt correspond but also sometimes gives signs she wants a relation with him, then if there is no commitment yet, the guy after trying for so many years is going to fall into weaknesses in th long run when in reality he does love her.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Sometimes women do say what we want, but some men (not all) don't listen well to us. I think women use more body language than words when we want something. I mean a woman leaning in to a man holding his hands and possibly biting her lip could tell him she wants to kiss him (I had a friend ask about that). Other times we women like to know when a guy is paying attention to what we say whether with our words or our body language.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7976)
• Canada
7 Feb 07
A man should understand just by how she is reacting . Actions speak louder then words all the time and knowing the person your with means understanding what their needs are weather they tell you yes or no . Generally when we say something we mean it , unless we are pissed off or being sarcastic .
Think about it we can't make things too easy on ya's lol .
@marjonelle (798)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
It is not always like that izeman. There's a lot of women out there who are frank to their man. Telling them what they want or don't want. I'm sure you'll meet one soon. :))
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I think it comes down to how mature a person is. When I say No, I mean no and yes means yes. But I think some girls like to play a game to see how well their guys knows them. I would rather just be upfront and open and tell him what I want and how I feel. There are woman out there who are like me. So, cheer and look for one who wont play the yes and no games.
