All is fair in love...?

I don't think it is ok to go after someone in a committed relationship. You should respect that committement. There are too many people out there that will go after someone they like who may be dating or already married.

If that person is not yet married, you still have a chance. And if you both love each other, even if that person has commitment with somebody else, you can fight for your love for each other. But this is not easy to do. There might be some sacrifices.

well in this case it will be all is fair in love affairs, but that's not what the saying is about isn't it? It might even be one sided love which is not fair at all.

I think you will find that many of the people who are single will reply one way and married people another. I am in fact married and, do not feel all is fair in love and war. I am trying to recall as well if the opinion I am getting ready to "voice", is what I felt during my single years. To be quite honest, I don't recall. I do know this. I have never gone after anyone who was spoken for, despite any attraction I may have had. Just as now, should I find myself attracted to someone, I don't put myself in vulnerable situations that may lead to temptation. If you are asking this question because you are contemplating if you should or should not approach one who is already spoken for, you can easily answer your own question by asking yourself these questions: Are you ok with being considered the other women? Are you ok with the fact they he will probably never leave his wife/girlfriend? What is it about him that makes him so special compared to someone who is single? What is it about you that makes it ok to accept the fore mentioned questions as "ok"?